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writes:My story you may feel different. I'm 26, healthy, handsome and still a virgin man. I had tight foreskin and consulted doctor recently. He advised try to do handjob always with the help of porn in net or books which doesn't worked actually. And later done with a small surgery it is moving back now bt with little pain always. It wud not be that much trouble if the surgery had done in my childhood or teenage. He strongly suggested me to meet any woman whom i can trust and who can understand me. Because of my circumsition problem i feared to date a girl till now.I have a very close lady friend who knows me well and because of me showedup gloomy recently, she discovered my real problem, which i was shy to tell her, after several questioning. She is an experienced nurse by profession, 6years elder to me, very beautiful, married and mother of a child who lives alone. After few days of knowing my situation, she tries to get more close to me now and i'm sure she's interested. But i'm with a double mind of the moral side because she has a husband who is working abroad. But as doctor advised, she an experienced lady can be a big catch the least i expected. I never had a gf. Do i give my virginity to her??
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reader, tonik  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Word of advice: Please don't lose your virginity like this! Be patient and find yourself a steady girlfriend who will love you no matter what, I had your problem of Phimosis and the best way was to do circumcision, now Im a happy man in bed and my girlfriend enjoys my bald head.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 I'm surprised that your doctor didn't advise applying steroidal cream on your foreskin, to soften it.
Discuss this with him, and if he thinks it is suitable in your case your problem could be over.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 You can never put a situation right by doing something completely wrong. For starters and the BIGGEST reason not to: she's married. You cannot and should not have sex with a married woman. You'll be the "other" man, the dirty secret, the creep who sleeps with the missus while the husband's out at work.
Assuming you DO have sex with her despite all this, how is it going to solve the medical problem? Will having sex just once cure you of this problem? Certainly not. You do it once, you'll end up doing it all the time and it will lead to an INCREDIBLY messy situation.
Find yourself a girl who doesnt have any of this baggage. Never do anything that you know is wrong and will make you feel rotten afterwards.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 Oh no... the doctor I think is right, but what is good for your body is not good for your heart in this case. Your body might enjoy it as she is experienced, but how much will you mentally enjoy it, knowing she is married? Will you feel guilty? Will you feel ok with it, and what if the husband finds out etc, and what about her child. Things like this might impact how relaxed you will be around her, and especially AFTER you have had sex with her. How will your relationship with her be then? Friends do not have sex with each other, which means that if you have sex with her you become her love, and are no longer a friend.
And what if you were to fall in love with her, or want to have sex with her again, but to her it is impossible?
I fear getting tangled in a web of this kind will complicate the life of anyone, and isn't worth it. You can find other women, the reason you haven't so far is because you've been holding back. Try to be brave and date women instead, women who are single. See if you can't find a nice single woman instead who will be there for you as your girlfriend, and not someone else's wife who will go home to her husband instead of lying cuddled up to you and having breakfast in the morning after.
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