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writes:i have been married to my husband for seven years and have one child. in the past two years things between me and my husband have been very strained and the sex has been non-existent except for when he is drunk. i was on our shared laptop when i found in the history that he has been visiting homosexual porn sites when i confronted him about it he explained that they were pop-ups and got very defensive about it, a few days later i went back onto the laptop and the history had been deleted. he has started getting friendly with a new male co-worker who is a homosexual and has been staying out with him till very late twice he didn't even bother to come home. i really don't know how to cope with this, can someone please help me?
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (18 June 2011):
 yeah sounds like he is finally "realising" that he is gay.
confront him and dont expect things to get better. i am gay and recently had sex with a woman when drunk. alcohol makes you so stupid you can barely even register gender.
point being this sounds bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2011): Wow thats a dilemma !! I really think that you need to confront your husband again and show him the evidence that suggest that he may be having an affair with this man.
If he denies it and tries to reassure you, then explain to him how it looks... his lack of interest in sex with you, gay porn and hanging out and spending the night with gay friend, i mean if it is all a simple misunderstanding im sure he will get the picture when you produce all this to him.
If you doubt him then follow your gut because its usually never wrong and by the sounds of it i would be thinking exactly the same if i were in your shoes.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 I'm sorry but it does sounds as though your suspicions may be justified. more than the homosexuality itself (he may swing both ways for all we know) is the fact that he has been neglecting you and may even be cheating. it may be time to confront him and weigh your options in this marraige. things cannot go on like this for ever.
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reader, svf  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 This sounds like a bad nightmare coming true... I think from what you have written that it does sound like he is gay. Finding his new friend so interesting that he isn't coming home, gay porn (that could just be an interest however). The worrying part for me is the not coming home.Is there anyway you can check his phone to see if there are any giveaway texts? But if he is spending nights out with this friend of his without bothering to come home, he has crossed the line of respect. You are his wife, not a housemate, and he is the father of your child. He is behaving selfishly toward the 2 of you and you have a right to demand some answers. For the sake of yourself and your child.I must say, it is looking like he is cheating though, and if it's with his friend, it is going to be a mental shock for you, and if it's with another woman it's still going to be painful for you. Either way, cheating is cheating and it's painful. Disrespect is exactly that and you deserve MUCH better. x2 years without sex is a long time and no one should have to put up with that. If you could have a long talk with him and try for counselling, that may help, but it sounds like he isn't putting in the time to help make things work to get back on track to a happier home life.
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