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51-59,
*heers
writes:Hi everyone. My hubby recently get hook with facebook, with his photos posted alone. when i handed him, some photos were taken together with me.But on facebook screen, he cut it without me inside.He remark he didn't want people to know he's married.I'm so sad and my heart hurt but not voice out.Yesterday his female colleague who was last day, celebrate with cake.Reaching home, he proudly showed that colleagues photo on Facebook already. I was heartbroken again. how can he do that?
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reader, cheers +, writes (16 August 2011):
cheers is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi everyone. Just to update that he'd realised his mistakes & apologised. He display my photo there &change marital status:married and remove that female colleague photos.
When he text me to inform my photo already in Fb, I reply,"you're so thoughtful.I appreciate it though it come very late". He said,"sorry,i'm still learning".He's older than me but very naive
I reply "I'm a jealous person.You are My Macho Man.I don't let others mess around". Yet you cut the photo and display as Single,with photo of female colleague (only two of you).But if taken in group,i don't mind. You thought I didn't know anything. If not angry,I'm not your wife.Why should i care? He said,"no no more.."
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): Don't feel sad! It's him that's sad. He is yearning for the days when he was young, free and single (and probably better looking and more virile, maybe with hair and no paunch!)
Ask him how he would feel if you started to cut off his image from your photo's....or do it and wait for his reaction. If you're on FB put yourself as single! But then this is playing games and you don't really need to lower yourself like this, let him play the silly immature games if he so needs to boost his ego like this.
I discovered my husband chatting to 'ladies' online for sexual gratification and it really hurts and is difficult to come to terms with but just remember that you are the one that is being true to your relationship, you are the one that has more pride in themselves, you are the one that can hold your head up, and you are the one that is worth much, much more than he's dishing out.
What a sad man (and I use the term 'man' loosely) he is!
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reader, cheers +, writes (9 August 2011):
cheers is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone. Thanks alot for your valuable advises and opinions. I believe there's always a way to the problem.I'm working on it... frm CHEERS
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): My ex did the same thing and i found out why its because he was insecure and needed females to add him to boost his confidence
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reader, svf  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 What a mean thing of him to do - and say to you! He doesn't want people to know that he is married, how dare he. You are his wife and you have every reason to be feeling insulted right now. Does he treat you like an invisible person in normal, everyday life? How long have you been married?
And how old is he? He should bloody well grow up and respect you. I feel terrible for you having to deal with this. Please don't let his lack lustre attitude get you down, you are worth a hundred of him. And remember, Facebook is just a cyberspace thing anyway, it is YOU who live with him and know him, not these cyberspace 'friends', so please try not to let this hurt you too badly. Hold your head up high, you are beautiful.xx
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 I think that is rather insulting that your husband does not want people to know he is married....have you asked him why?
I can see why that would make you sad.
I do not know why he would do that, only he does. You need to be the one to tell him how it makes you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): I'm sorry to say this, but your husband sounds like an asshole. There are only 2 reasons I can think of that would explain his actions:
1. He's either embarrassed by the way you look and doesn't want his FB friends knowing he ended up married to you
2. He is flirting/setting up arrangements with women online.
If I were you, I would do some investigative work. This is not normal.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel. Is there a legitimate or sensible reason why he doesn't want people to know he's married? Something doesn't sound right. So tell him how you feel and ask why he feels he must hide such an important thing?
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