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*umblebee12
writes:hello everyone, thanks for reading my post. here is my story. i have a gf for 3 years and 2 mos and i really love her. then she left abroad to work as a nurse. my gf is pretty while her sister is not so. before she left i'm already having lustful thoughts abt her sis. i am 22, my gf is 23 and her sis is 26, married and has two kids. she and her husband is also having a long distance relationship. i know i'm so stupid. lol. i ask her sis to have a date, she said we can go out as long as we will bring her kids. so we went out, then while we were in the cab i held her hand and kiss her, she didnt react. then when we arrive at their house and i said goodbye i kissed her again. then i cannot sleep the whole night bcos i was thinking abt her so i decided to meet her and tell her abt my feelings for her. so i told her i am falling for somebody else who has a husband and two kids. she said it's not right bcos she's married and i have s gf and that's her sister. i kissed her hand but she said stop it. then i just kissed her shoulder. good thing she didnt get angry and said she wont tell anyone abt it. she just told me to stop thinking abt it. i was planning to tell my gf abt it. i deleted her number on my cel, stopped texting her and promised to stay away from her. what should i do to forget her? it's not just lust im falling in love with her. thanks in advance for answers.
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reader, bumblebee12 +, writes (9 August 2011):
bumblebee12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe will come back after 2 years. she's in saudi and i cant visit her because i'm studying and the airfare is expensive.
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reader, bumblebee12 +, writes (9 August 2011):
bumblebee12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for you reply. i will do what you all have told me. i will stay away from her. i post on my wall a paper and I write there what would be the risk if i still pursue with her. i am feeling well now, i have called y gf this morning and told her i really love her. i think i just missed her. thank you again.
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reader, svf  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 You are displaying shameful behaviour here. Add to the fact that your girlfriends sister has repeatedly asked you not to crack on to her, yet you keep approaching her. Listen to her and take NO for an answer. She has children, a husband and loves her sister. Imagine what is going to happen if she decides to tell her husband what you were trying to do. Now think about it, I don't think you would like that scenario to much, would you? And I think you should end it with your girlfriend, as you are no longer in love with her and she deserves someone faithful and who is not going to go lusting after her older sister.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Okay. You have a girlfriend who is currently working abroad. Do you know when she'll be back in the Philippines, or would it be possible for you to go visit her?
Secondly, think how devastated she'd be if you were to betray her with her SISTER! Would you REALLY want to wreck three lives? (your gf, her sister and brother-in-law, not to mention any children they might have?)
At least this lady told you it's not right because she is married!
You "saved" yourself from a harsh response from me, because you have deleted her number from your cell, stopped texting and intend to stay away from her. You now need to "steel" yourself to firmly resolve that she is "forbidden fruit" and her loyalty is to her husband, not you. This is how it should be, and MUST be. See if you can give more attention to your gf by calling her, planning a nice surprise when she comes home, and MAYBE there's a way to pay a her a visit.
Apart from this, focus on the other interests, work, activities you have in your life.....good luck.
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reader, betty blue  +, writes (8 August 2011):
Be very careful. You may just be feeling lonely . If you truly love your gf don't ruin it and risk losing her.
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