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writes:Well, there is this girl I like. She has been dating this other guy for a year and plans on getting married to him. Well, she likes me to. She hates it when other guys flirt with her however, when I flirt with her, she likes it. She also flirts back with me.She said that she wants me to sneak in her room this weekend and also wants to "wrestle" with me.I looked on her boyfriend's myspace and I saw his status, it said something like: "thinking... confused....curious......scared to get hurt....."Two days later, I saw where it said: "A little agitated and annoyed."So I know I'm winning her over so far however, I want to be her boyfriend and get this other guy out of the picture completely.I know her boyfriend went to California and is coming back in two more weeks.What should I do to win her over completely?I want to be her boyfriend before he gets back.Thanks in advance!
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reader, Francesca91  +, writes (16 January 2010):
No-one deserves to be hurt and have their girlfriend 'stolen'. Don't too harsh on this guy, if you truly love her then you want the best for her, whether you may like it or not, it may not be you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2009): Ok, so go for it, mess up their relationship. Start a relationship on a great foundation. Of course you think her current bf is a douche, but once you're her bf, you will be the douche.
Way to be "that guy" that breaks up a relationship. Good karma bro. You rock.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 December 2009):
Well apparently she likes douche bags. So if she leaves him and goes to you, what does that make you? And yes, it is selfish because you're thinking of yourself. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you! It doesn't take that much winning over to get a girl if she really wants to be with you. I'm not trying to be mean here, just honest. But I've been with someone before who was a total jerk, but I stayed with him because I was really young and didn't think I could do better. So I stayed until someone better came along, and trust me, he didn't have to do a lot of convincing; I was gone in a flash. It was actually probably the one of the best decisions I ever made.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want her though. If you think about it, I'm not being selfish, I'm simply sharing my love for her and he is being selfish for not letting me have her. I don't see no ring on her finger and besides, he does NOT own her. Her bf is a douche bag and he deserves it.
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (11 December 2009):
Ok everyone finds someone that they are attracted to, but seriously, if they have someone in their life already, BACK OFF!! Don't be an a-hole and try and mess that up. You don't want to be the one responsible for messing up a relationship. I agree with the other response, who is to say she won't pull this on you. Unless you live in a village of about 30 people, there are lots of other women out there. Just because you find her attractive and there has been some sexual chemistry built up doesn't mean you should mess up something, that either now or at one time, was special for two people. Don't be so selfish.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 December 2009):
To be honest, I think she likes the attention you give her. Otherwise, she would have dropped her fiance for you a while ago. Don't you feel bad for the other guy at all? What if she were to do this to you?
Say you were able to "win her over." Then what? I really don't think she'd be ready to be in a relationship with you. Then it will be back and forth drama between her, you, and her ex.
Personally, I think you should find someone available and spare yourself the drama. But to answer your question, you just have to tell her. There's no game or magic spell to win her. Just tell her how you feel. That you like her and want her to be your girlfriend then give her reasons why she should be with you over her fiance. I know, easier said than done, but that's really how simple it is. After that though, be prepared to be jerked around with her indecisiveness and being certain she wants you and then not being certain the next.
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reader, askc  +, writes (11 December 2009):
Well if she plans to marry him then its hard to know CAN you win her over? It all sounds a bit confusing, but if you are adement on doing something about it, then I would just tell her you like her straight out if you havent already, and I'm sure if she's interested she'll let you know and if not then at least you know where you stand!
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reader, Francesca91 +, writes (11 December 2009):
Although you may like this girl an awlful lot, I think you may be going about this the wrong way. I think this girl may be confused about her feelings for you and her boyfriend. Even if she finishes with her boyfriend she may not be ready to go into a new relationship. I think the best thing to do is to talk to her, tell her how you feel for her, and how you think she feels for you. If they do break up it would be better for both her and you, if it was on good terms that way it decreases the chances of having a revengful ex. Patience is a virtue my friend, if you truly like her (I think you do)your fondness for her won't go anywhere.
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