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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi, i'm on love with my best friend (a girl) i mean want whats best for her love not just the humdrum. but she has a boyfriend whos. well. bound to get her into trouble. they make a nice couple and all but everytime i see him with her (always) i basicly die inside. it's to the point where i know waiting is smart but it hurts so much that i have trouble. should i just tell her for my own relief of emotions? or use the ignorance is bliss policy and let her have the relationship shes having without something like her best friend who gives her relationship advice being deeply in love for her making her confused and screwing her currently good life. a little encouragement or feedback. whatever. just help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): the best thing to do in any such situation is to be a good friend. be there for her. i know it may hurt a lot, but think of it- by telling her that you like her, it may not have many consequences favorable to you, so theres no real point. if you feel you could get over by telling her, then let it out, though i wouldnt advise you do that since it could affect ur friendship (make things awkward)- depending on how she handles such situations. so according to me, you should just live with it, try hard to get over her and most important of all, be a good friend.
you seem like a really nice guy- genuine really, so i really hope what you get is the best for you. :)
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 December 2009):
Okay, the oldest you guys are is 15 I'm guessing? Look at it this way: they're more than likely not going to last and she'll eventually learn for herself that he's trouble like you say. If you try to make her see what you see, guaranteed she will just ignore it or make excuses for him. So just be her friend for now and eventually you'll just be there for her when they break up.
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