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*__ReD
writes:well ...me and my bf got into an arguement ..nd he got really angry and told me not to text or call him anymore that he will do it whenever he feelz like it ...he also told me to do whatever the f**** i want nd that he'll do the same..so im asssumin he was sorta breaking up with me...his words really hurt me ...i really miss him and really want to talk to him but im tired of always being the 1st one to try to fix things when we get in an argument ...yet i love him with all my heart and dont want to lose him..? ?? WHAT SHOULD I DO ? ? ?
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reader, x__ReD +, writes (24 December 2009):
x__ReD is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe broke up !!! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Don't keep going back to this guy. Find someone that will treat you with love and respect!!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 December 2009):
You love him with all your heart and don't want to lose him...this is the type of thinking that is putting you in this situation.
First off, you should start loving yourself a bit more, because frankly it sounds like this guy is treating you like crap but you still love him sooo much and don't want to lose him so you bend over backwards to accomodate his douchebag behavior. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, but you keep going back for more because of your undying love for this dude that acts like he doesn't give a crap about you.
Second, quit apologizing for things that you don't need to apologize for. Imagine slapping someone in the face and they apologize to you for it. Wouldn't you laugh and think, "Wow, what an idiot!" Because I sure would! And I'm sure that's what he thinks when you crawl back everytime to apologize to him after he throws a fit like a toddler! He knows he doesn't have to apologize to you first because he knows that you will!
So for once don't apologize to him. Don't try to contact him first. Follow what he said, he said to not text or call him anymore, so don't do it! I'm almost positive that he'll come to you, but you need to get a backbone and wait it out. Also, he's way too immature and/or you two just aren't compatible. So this relationship obviously isn't going to work out, so you should also think about dumping him after he apologizes. Believe it or not, there are actually guys out there that aren't jerks and don't talk to their girlfriends like that.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 December 2009):
I think you need to end it to be honest. He was very cruel to you, and let's be fair, you're always apologizing. Do you want the rest of your life with him, where all you do is argue and take the blame while he has a tantrum and goes off, or do you want someone who actually cares about you? Your choice. But think carefully. Yes, you love him. But he clearly doesn't love you all that much, and blames you for everything. You can do better.,
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