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writes:My husband and I have been together for six years, since we were twenty-three; married for two years. I'm currently pregnant with our first child, a son.Both my husband and I grew up decently. The most "worse-off" either of us have ever been was when my husband's dad died when he was twenty. And I ended up with an emotionally and physically abusive guy for a first love. That relationship lasted three years in high school. Otherwise, we've both grown up being pretty well-off.In my opinion, we're living the American dream with the nice, decent-sized house and luxury cars with a child on the way and a cat. I feel safe, secure, and feel great that my family is happy.But I'm not happy. And I don't know why. Perhaps it's depression, but I literally have nothing to feel depressed about. I have a loving and devoted husband and a child on the way!But I feel like I'm not fulfilling something or that something's not fulfilling me. I love my family dearly, but sometimes... I just don't feel whole. I've since gotten over my first love, so I don't think that's what is causing whatever it is that's wrong with me.Perhaps it's the pregnancy, but aren't I supposed to feel happy about it? I'm eight and a half months along; the baby is due at the end of this month. I just don't know why I feel so... I don't even know. Could someone please help me...?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 Have you done anything in the past or do you constantly think of a repetitave thought that keeps bringing you down or feeling this way? I wish to know what you are thinking when you feel down. Once we know this we have identified the problem and then you can start to look at ways on how to manage it ... it may take a while, it may very well be anxiety, but when you know you will and then you can work on it more. pm me or continue here:
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 December 2009):
As a mother myself, I would say it is largely hormonal... You could be starting to gradually go into labour and certain hormones kick in to trigger it. I would not be surprised if you got checked and you have started dilating slightly.
I would also warn you that after about a week of birth you might feel mildly depressed. This is all normal. If you feel depressed in a way that you feel might be dangerous seek help. Your physician deals with this on a daily basis and its nothing to be ashamed about. Congratulations to you and your family!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): It really does sound like you have what every woman wishes for; a stable home environment and a loving husband with a baby on the way.
Your feelings of discontentment probably arise from the fact that you are pregnant and have a lot of hormones floating about causing havoc not only physically but also mentally. YOu are very near the due date also, it could be anxiety about the birth.
I really suggest you see someone however, because post natal depression is a big thing in the west and it does interfere with the first cruicial months of the mother baby bond.
For now just think how lucky you are. You have a great husband, stabilty and good home and a baby on the way.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 December 2009):
Perhaps you're just having some anxiety. The baby is coming very soon and maybe you're feeling a little overwhelmed that everything is pretty legit and this is pretty much how it's going to be--you're settled in basically. So now it's kind of a, "now what?" type of thing going on. I'm sure hormones are playing a part in it too. It sounds like you know what you have and you should be grateful for that. Maybe on days when you're feeling like this, go visit a womens' shelter and you'll be reminded how good you have it.
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