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writes:me and my ex broke up almost a year ago, and since then have remained really good friends, he told me that if i changed my attitude and was the girl he fell in love with again i would be hard to resist, we talk all the time (i live with him, for financial reasons) but hes got a new gf, but he is always hugging me and stuff, and he knows im still in love with him. i just cant be patient anymore, what do i do?
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (12 December 2009):
I agree with angzw comments below. I think he knows that you are available so he thinks he can have a new girlfriend and if it doesnt work out your always there waiting around for him. Stop waiting and get on with your life if he loved you he would be yours.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 December 2009):
Ok dear. I agree with the other replies; especially the douche bag one. But this is my advice on how to deal with it: so far you have been very sweet to him; very predictable and stuff. You now need to be different and think outside the box so here is what you can do: one day, call him sit him down and tell him that he is absolutely right that you should break up. Tell him you are happy for him. Then you should also start dating someone else, just for friendship. Stop answering all his calls and never be at home when he gets in. Return his calls only occassionally and always be the first to end all conversations. He is taking you for granted so he should know that you are not waiting for him. NEVER be nasty but stop hanging around him all the time. Sort out your hair and nails and go have fun. AND stop having sex with him. You will not win him back this way. Just become unavailable. I just don't understand what in your upbringing made you so weak in character that you allow someone to treat you this way at your age.. You can get someone better. Also start a plan B for accomodation but start the dating game while you are still there
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (12 December 2009):
 I know your a really nice person and you want everything to just be sweet and simple and to make both you and him happy. But sweety, he has just clearly displayed to you that he disrespects you and does not care for the fact you and he broke up and that your relationship meant absolutley nothing to him. why? He's with another girl! That girl should be you right? You are borderlining pure humiliation, if you cannot see this I can tell you people will deffinatley be talking about this one. get outa there you deserve so much better from somebody who will love you, make love to you and take you to another universe in your heart.
never ever ever ever lock yourself financially with anyone ever! independance baby! at least untill you get married and have children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): First off he's a douchebag. Leave him. He has a new gf and you live with him? That pisses me off I would punch him in the face...leave him!!!!! He's a jerk
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 December 2009):
I think you know what to do...which is to leave him completely. You can tell yourself and everyone else that you still live with him for financial reasons and believe it, but that's total BS. Sure, it might be financially EASIER, but if you wanted to be away from him you'd figure something else out that would be financially appropriate for you. You still live there because you hope this will attribute to him falling back in love with you. Also, falling out of love and falling back in love with someone just doesn't happen, especially with someone you live with. I belive it could if people were separate for a period of time and the person totally screwing up did a total 180...but he's just trying to keep you there. And it looks like he's succeeded. He's being selfish, and wants to keep you there until something else better comes along, which apparently to him something better has come along so he has a new gf. And if things don't work out then he has you to fall back on. It's not very respectful to you that he brings this new gf around while you two are living together. Really the whole thing is inappropriate, and I think you know the best thing is for you to move out and move on with your life because obviously he has. Don't put your life on hold for someone that is only going to string you along, it's nothing but a waste of your time.
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