She has broken my trust - is it ok for me to ask her to no longer contact her ex's and change her phone number?
Q. my gf has recently completely broken my trust in her and its the second time she has damaged our relationship. the first was she was catching up with an ex boyfriend and lied to me about it and i later found out and second she was having an online ...
A. 20 November 2011: She clearly wants to do keep contacts with her ex. Whatever you do she will find a way out. Dump her for good.... (read in full...)
Should I stop watching porn?
Q. Can anyone tell me of any reasons that they can think of as to why I shouldn't watch porn? I watch it every couple of weeks, or so - just when I'm in the mood to. But then I feel sort of guilty, like I shouldn't be watching it. Do you think I should ...
A. 27 July 2011: Couple of weeks doesn't look like dependency. I don't see any reason for you to feel guilty.... (read in full...)
Does he really want to take things slow relationship-wise, or does he just not want me for a relationship?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I got out of a long-term relationship. I met a man shortly after who I absolutely loved spending time with. The third day that we hung out, we had sex, and it was beautiful. But I'm falling hard for him and I want a relationship ...
A. 26 July 2011: You are just a booty call,, more or less.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but am crushing on a friend. Do I act on it?
Q. So I'm in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years. We love each other and don't ever plan to break up. However, I've had a crush on one of his friends from school for longer than I've been with my boyfriend, and it's really been ...
A. 26 July 2011: Sure act on it, then come back here and tell us how you regret cheating on your bf and ask us advice to save your couple.... (read in full...)
Why is arrogance so appealing? Should I become more arrogant?
Q. Hi! I m a 25yr old, have average looks, good physique, sound financial position, and have a good behaviour(as people around me say). I never disgrace someone, never think anyone is inferior to me, never show off my attitude to anybody. Some of ...
A. 26 July 2011: You think too much. Just do what your instint tells you to do. Sometimes you have to listen to yourself. Their is an animal wanting to come out of you, don't keep it imprisoned.
Moreover, body language is also very important maybe more impo... (read in full...)
His debt is ruining our lives and relationship....what should I do?
Q. My partner is in SO much debt and is very very stressed. We don't go out and we don't do anything as there is no money. he is self employed so his income in quite low, and whatever income he has goes on paying back the debt and other bills. I ha...
A. 26 July 2011: We can only give you logical answers which will be in the benefit of your material life and long-term well-being. LEAVE HIM. But maybe you don't care about your financial security and give more importance to emotions. Maybe you are willing to... (read in full...)
Does sex feel the same for a man no matter what woman he's with?
Q. Not long ago I read a question asked by a man, if sex for women was different with different men. He then went on to say that sex for a man is in general the same no matter the woman he is with. So, it doesn't matter if a woman is good in bed or n...
A. 26 July 2011: First segregate the sex in two parts: The intercouse and The orgasm. They are not the same for most guys.
When I ejaculate i get an orgasm, and i've never experienced a poor quality or high quality orgasm. It's always the same. The logic is: Noth... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being hurt and lied to by my girlfriend!
Q. Hey, Dearcupid. This may be a bit long..but please bear with me because I desperately need help with it! I've been with my girlfriend for just over 2 years now, and we're both 17. My girlfriend went to a party with her friend and my girlfriend, h...
A. 21 July 2011: Put that in your head: She had no remorse, she will do it again. Are you sure u wanna be with her when she will cheat on you again? You will be the one suffering, so dats your decision. LOVE??? if she loved you she wouldn't have cheated. "One-sided ... (read in full...)
Half of me says I should stay because I love her, the other half says leave because she's a cheater....what should I do?
Q. So i had been with my current girlfriend for 1 and a half years. we met in senior year of high school fell deeply in love it was great i couldnt tell you how strong my love for her was..i was gonna marry her i was completely commited to her. Then ...
A. 4 July 2011: I would choose the second half, to leave her.... (read in full...)
17 and never been kissed!
Q. This is really lame. I'm seventeen and I've never kissed a guy. It's not that I haven't had the opportunity, I just want it to mean something. I've started kind of seeing this guy, and obviously we're going to have to kiss sometime soon. I ...
A. 4 July 2011: I don't think its lame. And kissing is natural, just flow with it.... (read in full...)
Why do people dislike me? Is speaking your mind really that bad?
Q. This isn't a love/relationship question but I think this site is great and I go nowhere else for advice, so I hope there are people here who would take the time to read this and help me out. Okay, hi. I'm a 17 year old girl. I've never had proble...
A. 4 July 2011: Some people simply hate people who criticize them, unless they are really close friends.... (read in full...)
I ran into my school teacher crush and after 12 years I still have a thing for her!
Q. I am 25. She is 40. She was my teacher in 8th grade. I hadn't seen her since. I ran into her the other night at a club. I went up to her to tell her who I was and we laughed and exchanged small talk. She was pretty drunk. I asked her about her ...
A. 4 July 2011: A crush is a crush,,, not to be confused with love, trust and commitment. Be careful not to mess her up, or even yourself in this crush.
Your question was: Do I even have a chance with this?
-If you really want to, yes. You will be able to convi... (read in full...)
Was I rude and demanding to my boyfriend?
Q. Hi I had a huge fight yesterday with my fiance of 5 years because he said i embarass him because i told him to put something away in front of a group of people instead of asking him, do i have to ask him to do things? i thought if your in a ...
A. 4 July 2011: Unfortunatly yes, it was rude.. even if you were right to say it. Maybe the proper word to use is 'tactless'.
If something is wrong you must say it is wrong, but the way you say it is also important.
In a couple, both are supposed to be equal. S... (read in full...)
I want him but just as a FWB, can this work?
Q. I'm in a bit of a complicated situation. This is a really long story, fair warning... I suppose this all starts back at the beginning of this school year. I met this guy who we'll call T. T was quiet, had below average attendance, and ...
A. 1 June 2011: Totally agree with spinnaker..
Everything that happens in your life forge you into who you are, consiously or inconsiously. This sort of relationship can really mess people up.. just search 'FWB problems' on this site and you'll get an insight. Peop... (read in full...)
How to make a graceful, regret-free exit?
Q. I'm leaving the small town I grew up in a few months from now. I've done a lot of things I regret in this town, and they've been on my mind a lot lately. I want to move to the city with a clean slate. Any advice on how to psych myself into jus...
A. 26 May 2011: I don't believe in the 'clean slate' stuff. You can't erase your past just like that. Your past formes part of yourself, it is what defines you and your future. ... (read in full...)
Ran into my cheating ex, what does all of this mean?!
Q. Wow, what a long road it has been since I first found this website and posted my own question. I had my heart broken by the girl I really thought the world of. She had cheated on me.br brI have come to terms with what happened, and am OKAY now!...
A. 26 May 2011: DO NOT APOLOGIZE!!!!!
She needs to know that she can't get everything she wants...and she wants to use you again..... (read in full...)
I'm a 40 yr old female in love with a 20 yr old
Q. I'm a 40 yr old female in love with a 20 yr old. I struggle with our age difference and it doesn't bother him at all. He wants to marry me and loves my kids as his own. I've discussed with him that someday he would like to have his own children ...
A. 23 May 2011: People sometimes want something, but when they actually get it they realise they didn't want it so much. Every person runs this risk in a relationship but maybe it is a little more risky in your situation.
Maybe your boyfriend doesn't realise how ... (read in full...)
I saw a picture of a guy kissing her on the cheek. How can I get her back?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago... We saw each other once a few days after the break up to talk were she ended things completely for now. A week went by and she called me in Friday saying that she wanted me to bring all of her stuff ...
A. 23 May 2011: She obviously has moved on, so you should do the same. Maybe she told you she missed you because she didn't want you to feel bad that she moved over you so quickly. Don't be so desperate, just focus on something else. I know its hard to see an ex ... (read in full...)
I don't want her to think I'm desperate for a girlfriend!
Q. well i like a girl but shes got a boyfriend and my friend has told me that i should move on from her which i am doing. i met this girl at a friends party in february and i decided to speak to her for the first time since on facebook this afternon. ...
A. 15 May 2011: When i guy is desperate, the girl senses it. But she will not tell it. Its a gut feeling they have.
Some girls capitalise on it and use the guy for their advantage, some put a big cross on the boyfriend possibilities and just try to be frie... (read in full...)
My husband wants 7 kids! I thought he was joking!
Q. My husband and I have been together since we were both 20 years old. I told him from the beginning that I don't care where we live as long as we get married near my hometown. He grew up in rural farm-town America and now that's where we and our kids ...
A. 15 May 2011: I really really really want to have over 10 kids when i get married.
However its impossible for me, because i will not have enough time to take care of the kids, plus it would be a big financial burden for me.
If the situation was differen... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says "he doesn't do family things"!
Q. my boyfriend of just over a year was invited to my nieces birthday party today. he said he would go 3 weeks ago when asked, then the day before it said he couldn't make it and made up a lame excuse about the time it started conflicting with ...
A. 15 May 2011: To answer your question:
You are not asking too much. He needs to know the important persons in your life.... (read in full...)
Does he want me to chase him?
Q. So ive been seeing this guy for 5 months now. Things started off great, he would contact me every day and we would see eachother every few days. We admitted feelings for eachother, but he also told me he hasn't had a girlfriend in 4 years and the ...
A. 15 May 2011: Sometimes when a guy propose a girl and she accepts, their may be a posibillity that she accepted because she couldn't say no, or out of pity. So, the guy would think to have found his soul mate and the girl wants to find a way to end it all. H... (read in full...)
13 guys in 7 years...too much?
Q. Is having had sex with 13 guys in seven years making me look like a slut?...
A. 15 May 2011: It makes about 2 guys a year,, doesn't seems much to me. ... (read in full...)
Why did he tell everyone that he broke up with me when it was me who ended things?
Q. Hii, So bacicly ive just been out with a boy, he kept asking me one day at school. Recently in the easter holidays i saw him we went out me him my bestfriend and her boyfrined the first day he was fine but all others he messed me around had me and m...
A. 28 April 2011: IMAGE. Social image. He is not a jerk but at such a young age friends are more important than a relationship. He is just trying to hide his feelings. Normally at that age, an emotional guy is sassy, it looks gay. With a little maturity he'll b... (read in full...)
Do women like nice guys with confidence?
Q. Through out my life I've never scored with a women. I've had them as friends, but never anything more. In my eyes, it was because I've never tried anything, always playing it safe, but now I've become more confident with myself and I'm still a nice ...
A. 26 April 2011: Ever women will tell you, "Be a nice boy, not a bad boy, coz we like good boys". Its true, they want a nice guy to be by her side when she is at her worst. But she doesn't feel attracted or 'in love' with that nice boy. Most girls, (but not all), ... (read in full...)
Help! I fantasise about my boyfriend with other women when we have sex!
Q. This is going to sound very strange!!! I have always been quite a jealous person and I still very much am. On a normal day, the thought of my boyfriend even looking at another woman makes me angry and upset. However, when I am with my boyfrien...
A. 26 April 2011: Yes, it can happen and is normal. Sometimes fantasies are best left to the imagination alone. For example, I used to have a fantasy of having sex with a transexual or even a group of trannies. However, i had opportunities to make it come true ... (read in full...)
Guys: Do you all want a younger woman?
Q. Guys, tell the truth, do you REALLY want a younger woman than the one you are with now? I am in a relationship with a man 15 years my senior. The other day I asked him if he woud date a woman in her 40s he said no, in her 30s he said no (even...
A. 20 April 2011: I'm 23 and i'll prefer a younger girl for a long-term relationship, but only by 2-4 years. I don't want a large age gap either. However i also like women over my age for one night stands.
I'm sorry i can't give you a straightforward answer to your... (read in full...)
Are these guys actually single? When I have a boyfriend, will he do the same things?
Q. I am really curious about this because it makes me wonder what kind of guys these are or whether most guys do this and we're naive to notice. Basically when i go out on nights or just shopping during the day i'll see guys look at me even when the...
A. 20 April 2011: Maybe you just live in a loose cultural region, which kind of encourage these sort of behaviour. Not all guys do this, coz i don't and i know lots of my friends who don't. Their is about 55% of guys who would cheat if they get an opportunity to do ... (read in full...)
My husband is a cheater, but I'm in a dilemna if I leave him
Q. My husband and I have been together 6 years, married for 5. We have 3 children. About 2 months ago I call him while he was out with his friends and instead of pushing end on the cell he push talk by accident. I heard him getting it on with a girl ...
A. 20 April 2011: You have problems with your husband, but you are also dependant of him, and if you leave you can't sue him. What a dilemma. First get concrete proof that he is cheating, then divorce and sue him for child support. How stupid i am. He will not be ... (read in full...)
Do you need to have sex to love somebody?
Q. I am a virgin. My boyfriend of 22 months is not. I love him to bits but he has said he cant love me until we have sex. He says theres an emotional connection there for him when it happens. I have always wanted to wait til i was married but he tells ...
A. 20 April 2011: He doesn't want to engage but wants sex. He ask you for guarantee, so what are your guarantee that he is going to stay with you after he took your virginity. If you want to wait its your decision, and atleast for your own self-respect don't get as l... (read in full...)
I'm only 16 and I think this 36 year old likes me, what should I do?
Q. Hey guys, i need some help..so i'm 16 and i'm pretty sure that my 'ex' neighbour at 36 (who i've had a crush on for a LONG time) is coming on to me. He used to live across the road from me with his partner and their daughter at 3 years old. I'v...
A. 20 April 2011: You seem to be only a rebound relationship. Trust me its not a good idea to go after a man or woman who just had a depressing break-up.
You should give it some time. Just be friends and stay like friends till he gets better.... (read in full...)
Why does she want to marry me when she doesn't want to be with my physically?
Q. hi guys and galls. I was just hoping for some views on my situation. I an due to be married next year after 5 years in this relationship. Over the part 8 months me and my future wife have had sex 5 times. This is not normal for any relationship ...
A. 20 April 2011: Troble ahead, just like they said below.
... (read in full...)
Guys- if you're in a good relationship, do you still watch porn?
Q. So about a month ago I found out my boyfriend was watching porn. Mainly on the days when we don't have sex. We've been living together for about two years and I've always been the sexually frustrated one bc I have a super high libido. I usually have ...
A. 16 April 2011: Guys- if you're in a good relationship, do you still watch porn? I'll answer this. I'm actually in a great relationship. Our sex life is healthy, i'm satisfied and so is she. We have sex atleast every 2 days, and each one of them last atleas... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't get to know me
Q. I feel that my boyfriend isn't *that* interested in me as an individual. My boyfriend doesn't know when my birthday is. He doesn't ask, so I never get a chance to tell. What I'm surprised is he doesn't seem to realize that "miraculously", ...
A. 13 April 2011: I don't remember my gf's birthday or any other things. In fact i don't even remember the names of some of my past girlfriends, sometimes i don't even recognise them when i meet them on the streets.
These informations seems like details to me. I do... (read in full...)
I kicked him out because he watched too much porn, please advise.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now (we are both 30) and we moved in with each other at the end of November. I have been blissfully happy and not even thought about anyone else, I was ready marry this person and have children. I used to go ...
A. 10 April 2011: Why do women hate porn so much??? ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and I feel lost careerwise, what do I do?
Q. I always did well at school and had good grades. But I lack direction. I've been working at a warehouse for years and I absolutely hate it. I see other people my age in careers and I feel reallu jealous. I'm smart and I know I can do alot better. I...
A. 10 April 2011: I'm 23 and work in an accounting firm. My salary is average now but when i started it was almost nothing.(One and a half year earlier). My promotion prospects are really high (1 promotion every 6 months). My friend of the same age had better grade... (read in full...)
Why do I go from guy to guy and how can I get this to go away?
Q. Anyones help on this would be brilliant! I don't know why i'm feeling like this? During the past month or so, I have literally went from guy to guy! I feel I just want to always have a guy there, whether it's texting them seeing them or ...
A. 10 April 2011: Attention hungry? Don't want to be alone?? Using guys for your own emotional benefit??? Please don't make it a habit. You can try to befriend them first. Make them realise its not long-term. You seem to like the intensity of the catch, but get... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm having a midlife crisis at 18!
Q. Right. I know this is ridiculous, but i feel as though i am having a mid life crisis at eighteen!? I keep thinking i'm so close to being twenty and going off into proper adulthood. That it's making me panic because i want to experience what ...
A. 10 April 2011: Its amazing how easily a youngster can get depressed.... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to play it cool and get this stubborn boy to realise he has an amazing girlfriend?
Q. Me and my bf are a big on-off couple. Its always him that breaks it off with me and leaves me heartbroken and I always feel like the idiot. He so stubborn, and when we have a serious argument he runs. We had a big argument the other week and H...
A. 10 April 2011: Cold logical thinking. If you are so keen to annoy him, maybe you should be prepaired to leave him too. He is a self-consious and selfish person. He values his welfare more than any other. No relationship will ever affect him. He doesn't need you... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped noticing me?
Q. So there is this guy I have liked for ages, he used to always look at me and smile. He said hi once and I said hi back, but lately its like he has been ignoring me. I catch him looking at me but when I look at him its like he doesn't notice me. Any ...
A. 10 April 2011: It became boring, dull and repetitive. After a certain amount of time the guy will think a little and wonder why he smiles at you, he will question the use of giving you this small attention. He still likes you, no doubt about that. What changed ... (read in full...)
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