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writes:This is going to sound very strange!!! I have always been quite a jealous person and I still very much am. On a normal day, the thought of my boyfriend even looking at another woman makes me angry and upset.However, when I am with my boyfriend in the bedroom or ahem...on my own, the thought of him having sex with other women turns me on.The normal fantasy is him going to the strip club (which if he were to actually do so I would go mental!), having a lapdance from a really hot girl and being seduced by her.Is this normal?????? I have had this fantasy with every man I have dated!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): The fantasy causes arousal, just like your jealousy and anger do if you see him look at another woman.
Different types of arousal, yes, but still arousal emotionally and physiologically.
Keep it fantasy though, or it really will destroy your relationship, and don't think it won't.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 personally since I've done this I will vote for normal....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Whatever turns you on is what"normal" is for you..don't worry about stuff!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): I have strange fantasys too but I know I would never do it!
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (26 April 2011):
 As has been said there is no normal or abnormal or right or wrong. You think its abnormal because it clashes with another aspect of you and it unsettles you because you dont understand it. Have you ever considered what turns you on is the thought of watching sex? Would it do the same for you if it was two neutral people involved? You put your partner there because hes obviously the one who your attached too but I cant help but think what lies at the root of this is voyeurism....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Yes its normal and nothing to worry about. Its a harmless and quite common fantasy. Remember the key word...Fantasy! While most are content to keep this as a fantasy, some go a step further and act it out for real in threesomes and such. For those that find it works, good for them. But many find it doesnt work and brings untold problems. So if you are not interested in acting on it, it might be a fantasy you want to keep to yourself! Because if your boyfriend hears of it, theres a chance he could start pressuring to do it for real. It has been known.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Everybody is different and everybody has different fantasies there is no right or wrong one's or there is no normal guidelines for fantasies either. Therefore I dont see a problem with your fantasy. As long as it is not effecting you or your sex life well then try not to worry about it and just enjoy yourself.
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reader, ihateseagulls +, writes (26 April 2011):
people often love to fantasize about things which they wouldn't want to happen in real life, becuse it makes it exciting.
i think each of us has our own unique fantasies, and i would say your normal , as much as anyone else is normal.
i would not worry over this :)
honestly loads of people have so many differnt fantasies, its what makes having a fantasy fun, because its not going to happen.
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reader, Philips +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Yes, it can happen and is normal. Sometimes fantasies are best left to the imagination alone. For example, I used to have a fantasy of having sex with a transexual or even a group of trannies. However, i had opportunities to make it come true before. It seemed so disgusting in reality that i didn't do it. I knew then as i know now, that i would not like it in reality. So i prefer the comfy and security of my fantasy rather than reality.
Don't worry, you seem to make the difference between fantasy and reality. Its gonna be fine for you.
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