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anonymous
writes: hi guys and galls. I was just hoping for some views on my situation. I an due to be married next year after 5 years in this relationship. Over the part 8 months me and my future wife have had sex 5 times. This is not normal for any relationship surely? When i have tried talking to her about but with no real answer. My question is. Why does she want to marry me if she doesnt want to be with me physically Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, spinnaker +, writes (20 April 2011):
What did she say when you and she talked about the issue?
Does she have any history of abuse or any bad experiences with touch?
How does she react when you hold her hand hug or kiss her?
Does she avoid physical contact (hugs, handshakes) with people she knows?
Has she shared with you her past relationships?
This is the opportunity to shine as the man she wishes to spend her life with. There may be far more to this than meets the eye so be patient and supportive.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 April 2011):
From once a week to less than once a month. Has it slowly been decreasing or was there a drastic change at some point?
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reader, Crabman +, writes (20 April 2011):
I know how you feel !
don't let time dull your passion,
if I want sex I start as soon as I wake up, I tell my fiancee that she is the most beautiful woman in the world before getting up to make her a coffee in bed, I ignore things like facebook or drinking with mates, instead ill plan something like a long walk & hold hands etc , Ill talk to her as well as listen.
sex is hugely important to ME , so I work hard to make her want it
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): used to have sex once a week. Which i could coupe with even though i would prefer 4 times a week. I except and value her wants.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 April 2011):
I'm less concerned about the sex and more concerned about the lack of communication. Not a good sign. Has she always been this way with sex, or did her drive drop off more recently?
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reader, Philips +, writes (20 April 2011):
Troble ahead, just like they said below.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 April 2011):
Don't tie the knot if you can't even have a discussion about this with her. I totally agree that there will be trouble ahead.
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