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Why does she want to marry me when she doesn't want to be with my physically?

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Question - (20 April 2011) 7 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

hi guys and galls. I was just hoping for some views on my situation. I an due to be married next year after 5 years in this relationship. Over the part 8 months me and my future wife have had sex 5 times. This is not normal for any relationship surely? When i have tried talking to her about but with no real answer. My question is. Why does she want to marry me if she doesnt want to be with me physically

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A male reader, spinnaker United States +, writes (20 April 2011):

spinnaker agony auntWhat did she say when you and she talked about the issue?

Does she have any history of abuse or any bad experiences with touch?

How does she react when you hold her hand hug or kiss her?

Does she avoid physical contact (hugs, handshakes) with people she knows?

Has she shared with you her past relationships?

This is the opportunity to shine as the man she wishes to spend her life with. There may be far more to this than meets the eye so be patient and supportive.

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (20 April 2011):

dirtball agony auntFrom once a week to less than once a month. Has it slowly been decreasing or was there a drastic change at some point?

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A male reader, Crabman New Zealand +, writes (20 April 2011):

Crabman agony auntI know how you feel !

don't let time dull your passion,

if I want sex I start as soon as I wake up, I tell my fiancee that she is the most beautiful woman in the world before getting up to make her a coffee in bed, I ignore things like facebook or drinking with mates, instead ill plan something like a long walk & hold hands etc , Ill talk to her as well as listen.

sex is hugely important to ME , so I work hard to make her want it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011):

used to have sex once a week. Which i could coupe with even though i would prefer 4 times a week. I except and value her wants.

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A male reader, dirtball United States +, writes (20 April 2011):

dirtball agony auntI'm less concerned about the sex and more concerned about the lack of communication. Not a good sign. Has she always been this way with sex, or did her drive drop off more recently?

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A male reader, Philips United Kingdom +, writes (20 April 2011):

Philips agony auntTroble ahead, just like they said below.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (20 April 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntDon't tie the knot if you can't even have a discussion about this with her. I totally agree that there will be trouble ahead.

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