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writes:Anyones help on this would be brilliant! I don't know why i'm feeling like this? During the past month or so, I have literally went from guy to guy! I feel I just want to always have a guy there, whether it's texting them seeing them or whatever...... Like in a club i wont want to stay with one guy the whole night, so i will be with about six. Or if a good looking guy smiles at me it has made my day, and then i feel attracted to them. And I just want to add that i've not done anything physical with these guys so i don't mean it in that sense.But when I am getting to know someone if it doesn't work out or i get bored them, i feel like i need to be talking to another guy or have some attention from them! So i'll be texting a guy until i find someone else, which is bad cause i know that i am leading that guy on and then just kicking them to the side. (this is something my friends have been pointing out). Everywhere i go out now I am always going about looking at really attractive guys and really wanting to have their attention.. Sometimes i do it without realizing!?I badly want to know why i'm feeling like this and acting this way!?! How can i get it to go away? and Before anyone says it's father/family issues or whatever, i have to point out that i have a brilliant relationship with everyone in my family and get a lot of attention from them! .......Which makes me question my actions and feelings even more!!?
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reader, Philips  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Attention hungry?Don't want to be alone??Using guys for your own emotional benefit???Please don't make it a habit.You can try to befriend them first. Make them realise its not long-term.You seem to like the intensity of the catch, but gets bored after having got what you wanted. Its just a personality trait. You'll become more mature when the time is right. Be nice, have fun as much as you like but don't hurt anybody's feeling, who knows, you might be creating a monster by being so selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): You need to be careful your not giving the wrong signals to blokes leading them on then cooling it down-its ok flirting but blokes do have feelings as well and its not fair if one really likes you to lead him on then drop him cold
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 What is missing here is the before picture. You say this has been going on for about a month now? So what was it before?
If there was nothing before, you were not active on the flirting scene (which it sounds like you are doing) might you have just discovered flirting and trying out what it is all about, what the "market" is like and your value on it?
Or were you dating before? Long term?
Since you are not doing anything, I think you are just enjoying flirting. Spring is in the air, the time of the mating dance and part of that involves a lot of practicing.
Just remember that it is a short trip from being a flirt to being a slut. Harmless flirting is harmless, going to far... well it is a lifestyle people are free to choose but there are side effects you might no be prepared for.
You might just not be ready yet for a relationship. Daddy issues? Might be, just maybe none of the guys you have yet met are "it"? Who says you are supposed to find one within a month?
Could you simply be looking for the right guy, not finding him and instead of latching on to the first guy like a loser, simply moving on until you find the right one? People who come from stable families often do not jump into the first relationship that comes along. People with issues do that.
So, what exactly is the problem?
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