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writes:Me and my bf are a big on-off couple. Its always him that breaks it off with me and leaves me heartbroken and I always feel like the idiot.He so stubborn, and when we have a serious argument he runs. We had a big argument the other week and Hes been ignoring me ever since. I admit I have been crossing the line to stalker and ringing him every day.. Which is bad but cant help my self..He finally spoke to me the other day and told me how he doesnt want to be with me. over one argument??? I was with him the other week and he was being so sweet.. So I want to stick around cause hes amazing when hes happy but when hes mad, just ignores me.Also If i was to say to him i dont want this rship I know he would be like thats fine go. He'll be fine without me and that hurts cause I cant be without him.Any advice on how to play it cool, or get this stubborn boy to realise he has an amazing girlfriend?
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reader, Philips +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Cold logical thinking. If you are so keen to annoy him, maybe you should be prepaired to leave him too. He is a self-consious and selfish person. He values his welfare more than any other. No relationship will ever affect him. He doesn't need you. You don't have much value in his eyes, no one does. He has his own ideals and values. Nobody will make him change, and he will not accept anyone who acts against his values.He will never ever realise he has an amazing girlfriend because he knows their are millions of other girls in this world. Plus he already knows your faults.Your aim to make him realise something is bound to fail.You already know how amazing he can be when he is happy. Why don't you keep him happy then???Maybe you should be more flexible toward him.Making him realise how amazing you are is just a datail. You have the power to make this relationship work, show him you are ready to work through your issues, show him your determination.In the end you'll earn respect, and you'll realise temporary attentions is stale compared to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Hi there. It doesn't sound as if he wants to be with you and when a guy tells you that, you can throw out all hope of being together. It can be said that you are also stubborn, being that you refuse to accept it's essentially over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Nope no advice, because he doesn't want to be with you. It's as simple as that. The sooner you realize this the sooner you can get on with your life.
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reader, Battista +, writes (10 April 2011):
Firstly, you CAN be without him. It won't be fun or easy at first but you can manage on your own. Don't think that you won't be strong enough.Secondly, if he doesn't want to be with you then you can't force him to think otherwise I'm afraid. If he is constantly breaking things off then there is a reason for this. If you think he will be fine without you then you need to realise what that means and move on from him. I think the best thing you can do from here is just leave him alone. The constant calling has probably contributed to the problem. I think you should try and move on and find someone you are more compatible with, who doesn't always run away after an argument. That's not a healthy way to deal with problems. Good luck.
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