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*laire1640
writes:Hey guys, i need some help..so i'm 16 and i'm pretty sure that my 'ex' neighbour at 36 (who i've had a crush on for a LONG time) is coming on to me. He used to live across the road from me with his partner and their daughter at 3 years old. I've always been aware of him but never actually spoken to him till about 3 months before him and his partner split, they've been apart for almost 3 months and he now has his own place. Anyways, i added him on facebook and that's how we started talking, he also works at a local place near me so i see him a lot there. Like i said above, i've always had a crush on him and ever since he's moved out..he talks to me A LOT..but the weird thing is, he knows of my age and obviously he knows my parents but he keeps suggesting that i come over to watch a film with him?! i even suggested a film to him so he actually went and ordered it off of the internet to we could watch it! ...Believe it or not, this guy is one of the nicest people i have ever met in my life. He's very much the sort of person who cares too much about people's feelings, i know that's probably hard to believe seen as though what i said above. But, he's going through a lot with his split and everything and he's actually telling me everything that's going off and he's always depressed and whatever so i always explain that i'm there for him and try and talk him through what's going on...is this weird seen as though i'm only 16?! should he be talking to me about this?! Also, he keeps saying to me how i'm apparently 'one of a kind' for listening to him about his problems and there was even a conversation where he mentioned that he was fed up of being single and he just wanted to be happy, and then he said how he wished i would hurry up and grow up because i'd be perfect, i'm just too young.... Oh, and he also gave me his number a couple of days ago,Is he just being friendly with me because he knows that i'm there for him or do you think there's something a little off about that?! I'm not sure whether to take him up on his offer to go round to his place because i'm really not sure whether he will try something..am i being stupid and reading too much into this? Please give your opinions and advice! Sorry it's so long D:
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Stay away.
If he was a respectable man he would not not be warming up to you in this way.
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reader, Philips +, writes (20 April 2011):
 You seem to be only a rebound relationship. Trust me its not a good idea to go after a man or woman who just had a depressing break-up.
You should give it some time. Just be friends and stay like friends till he gets better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): Uh stay away. Far away. He is saying these things to you because he knows your young and naive. I'm not saying that as an insult we all are when we're teenagers. He's saying the things he is saying so you will feel sorry for him and think he just needs a friend. What he really wants is in your pants. I bet all my life savings that when you go watch a film with him at his house he will put moves on you. Get away from him he's no good. To old and him talking to you is creepy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 I'd be very cautious.
I'm going to encourage you to tell your parents about this.
at 16 his behavior is predatory.
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