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writes:Guys, tell the truth, do you REALLY want a younger woman than the one you are with now?I am in a relationship with a man 15 years my senior. The other day I asked him if he woud date a woman in her 40s he said no, in her 30s he said no (even though he is in his 40s himself). We have been together for over five years ( I am in my mid 20s now and look ridiculously younger). this worried me, as I am now convinced that he will leave after I hit the 30 mark, even though he says he wont. Reply to this Question
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reader, doublejack +, writes (30 April 2011):
You're always going to be 15 years younger than this guy, so I don't see where he will necessarily feel the urge to drop you for someone even younger. However, there is some key information missing. You've been together quite a while, 5 years now. Have you talked about long term things, like marriage or a family? Has this guy ever been married before? If not, what is he waiting for?To answer the more general question, the majority of men do want a woman who is a little younger than they are. I know I will only get serious with a younger woman. I'm 34 and the ideal woman for me is in her mid to late 20's. I have dated women from 22 up to 35, though, but with the ones in their 30's it was just a casual dating situation and that's all I'd want with them. If I'm still single in my 40's my ideal woman would be in her early 30's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2011): Honey this man will drop u like a hot potato as you get older. He has told u his preference and well now u know.And anyways why are YOU still saddled with this old geyser. As he gets older he may want younger women to make him feel ridiculously younger.LoveGirl
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reader, Philips  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 I'm 23 and i'll prefer a younger girl for a long-term relationship, but only by 2-4 years. I don't want a large age gap either. However i also like women over my age for one night stands.
I'm sorry i can't give you a straightforward answer to your question as this issue depends upon himself, not on general statistics or other people's personal experiance and opinion.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Just to add another "NO" to the pile. I've dated girls both younger and older. Until very recently the strongest connection I had was with a girl slightly older than myself.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Not all men only want younger women.
For instance, I have never been with anybody much older than myself. All my partners have been around my age (maybe 2-3 years older ) or younger. I suppose there's a market for any age range and age diffference.
But, you don't have to worry about all men- only about this one you are with.
If he is in his late 40s and would not date even a woman in her 30s- ! then yes, he sounds like the kind of guy who upgrades his vehicles based on how new and shiny they look and not on their actual quality /performances.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 April 2011):
 not all men want younger women.
I am 51 and my boyfriend is 37... he's more than happy and content to be with me...
I don't want older men... i seem to gravitate towards younger men... now granted i do not discount friends or relationships based on age it just seems to be what i'm attracted to.
so maybe your man likes younger women but not all men do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): Just enjoy the time, and see where it goes. I bet you all have great sex, when an older guy hooks up with a younger chick, the sex is wild and he can't get enough. I know when I hook up with a younger chick, I can't get enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): not all guys want a younger woman. My gf is eight years older than me and our relationship is wonderful. . Would not change a thing. Age is only a number its the love that counts. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): I dunno, do you all share the "love" look in your eyes. If you do, he is not gonna leave you. If he is not of the commitment type (like me, no longer than a year so far, and I am 50), He won't stay with you, I mean, I have PTSD and long story short I have trouble getting real close, so, all due respect, I know I would look for another cuz I might fall in love or u with me or both. If you had the "love" look, and I had the "love" look, I would have to figure out someway to break the ice on my feet and ask your dad for your hand in marraige (if you wanted marriage), and then propose to you, and go through with it.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (20 April 2011):
I am in my 30's and I have found dating a woman around my own age (or a few years older) the best. This is mainly because I have found them to be better at dealing with their emotions, are more mature and know what they want out of life. If you're in your mid 20's I'm guessing when you "hit the 30 mark" you won't be so insecure about your age and feel more secure about your relationship with him.
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