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*sousa87
writes:Hi I had a huge fight yesterday with my fiance of 5 years because he said i embarass him because i told him to put something away in front of a group of people instead of asking him, do i have to ask him to do things? i thought if your in a relationship you should just be able to say it example we need to put this away, put this in the car, is that rude?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): Would you not be angry if he disrespected you in such a way in front of people? It was rude, degrading and condescending
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 I would never make a statement to someone that said "we need this done" and expect them to do it.
IF i want someone to do something whether it be my bf, husband, bff, child or parent I am going to ask them "could you" "would you" "can you" and I damn well include the word "please" with the request
YOU always should treat your partner BETTER than you treat strangers even. so if you would ask a friend to put something away, why would you DEMAND it of your partner who you love and adore and respect?
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reader, Philips  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Unfortunatly yes, it was rude.. even if you were right to say it. Maybe the proper word to use is 'tactless'.
If something is wrong you must say it is wrong, but the way you say it is also important.
In a couple, both are supposed to be equal. Sometimes its accepatable to shows superiority in private, however in public it is different. It can be humiliating and embarassing. I'm sure he doesn't want to hear his friends say, 'his gf boss him around', behind his back.
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