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writes:My boyfriend has been really stressed lately, mainly because we're thirteen and might become parents. I always feel like I am doing something wrong. I try to get him to talk to me about it, but he says he doesn't want to because he doesn't want me worrying about him. Well, by him saying that, I worry way more..What do I do?
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reader, Nessie Jay  +, writes (15 July 2008):
First of all, I absolutly agree. Take a few deep breaths and get the pregegnancy test! Things could still be ok.
If, it turns out you arn't pregnant then definetly look into contraceptive methods such as the pill or implamon (a small stick that is inserted just beneath your skin)
Also if it turns out your not, then unless you feel the need there is no reason anyone needs to know you were worried in the first place. If your worried about your parants or anyone else finding out your on a contraceptive tell them it's to ease period pain (it helps for some woman) They'll never know the difference.
If the test comes up possitive make sure you find someone you are able to talk to comfortably that you are close to (not your bf) before making any big decissions. Either way, it is life changing.
Best wishes.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Ok, calm down here. I know you're scared, but you just can't jump into conclusions without verifying first. After you read this, I hope you make a wise decision about your actions.
Like some oter aunties said, you have to go get a pregnancy test. You just can't assume you are because its stressing the things here.
If you do find that you're pregnant, immediately go tell to your parents and tell your boyfriend last. They are the ones who need to know since you're underage and clearly unable to raise a kid on your own. After that, your parents will arrange everything, will decide everything for you and will try to fix things for you. If you're afraid to tell them, well it will be hard for you to hide the pregnancy to them and I'm not sure if the abortion clinic will let you have one without your parents knowledge.
If you are not pregnant, then take this as a sign to stop your stupidity. You well know you're young and unable to raise a child so sex shouldn't come to you yet. Take this pregnancy scare as a lesson to become wiser of your decisions and to not rush into serious, adult stuff like sex because you "think you're old enough to do it", which clearly you're not. And also take this as a lesson that if you still want to have sex at such young age, you have to use a condom. Also ask your mom for contracenceptives so the chances on getting pregnant will be slimmer.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Have you done a pregnancy test? I know you're worried about his reaction, so you're more scared about finding out, because you think you might lose his support, and even lose him, quite apart from being so young and possibly pregnant. You poor thing - you must be feeling bad at the moment. But don't: just go and do the test, and then you can start thinking about what to do. You might be parents - but also you might NOT be, in which case, better to find out soon and stop worrying : )
If you are pregnant, you need to go to your mum or sister or another female friend or teacher who you trust. Go to them first. They'll help you deal with the boyfriend, too. Don't worry - it will all work itself out. It always does.
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reader, Secret Teller +, writes (14 July 2008):
 you don't need to be worrying about your boyfriend you need to be worrying about yourself. there is question you need to ask yourself, can i take care of a baby.
can me and my parents aford a baby.
will my parents except the fact i'm pregnant.
will my boyfriend and boyfriend's parents help take care of the baby.
there is alot of things you need to think about. and your way to young to be having sex, and your way way to young to be having unprotected sex. if your not pregnant please use a condom next time. good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 July 2008):
 "Might become parents"??? Are you or are you not pregnant? That's much more important than whether or not he's making you worried, doncha think?
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