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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend had her phone with her in the bathroom today. We were having sex and afterwards, she had to use the bathroom. I waited for her outside the bathroom because I had to go. And I saw she came out with her phone. I did not say anything and just pretended not to notice.She offered an explanation to me on her own that she was texting her ex to make sure he was picking up their daughter from school and it was close to the time her daughter gets out of school. Do you think I have any reasons to be concerned? I have always trusted her.
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reader, Little Heart  +, writes (11 June 2016):
Trust her. Has she ever given you a reason not to? And especially after she herself offered an explanation without you having to ask her, so trust her.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (11 June 2016):
If its isolated to the bathroom, no big deal. If she freaks if you happen to grab her phone by accident or is overly protective of it, you have a problem.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 June 2016):
 I take my phone and kindle with me. I'm not cheating.
My hubby takes his and plays a game.
I know this how? HE leaves the door open (oy joy)
if the ONLY concern is that she took her phone with her... that's not enough...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 June 2016):
 Her explanation is perfectly plausible , but I am surprised that she felt the need to volunteer an explanation,and/ or that you thought an explanation was in order.
Why could not she bring her phone in the bathroom at times, for a score of different reasons , from giving a quick read to the news to not wanting to miss any call to simple absentmindedness etc.etc. ? Why should it be a sign of something "weird " going on ? Actually, why would you even notice where she takes her phone. Are you always so hyper-vigilant ?
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reader, Myau  +, writes (10 June 2016):
 She told you what was up.
Why would you think it was anything else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): I always play on my phone in the bathroom...disgusting I know but I'm certainly not up to anything bad so im sure she isn't either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): do you remember when people took a newspaper to the toilet to read while doing their business? well now they take their i phone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): I take my phone sometimes to the bathroom and nothing is going on. I have done that for the exact same reason that your girlfriend did. I still take it, either I'm in middle of checking somethings online or waiting for a call or text. She just did it once and you are way over reacting! just chill!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 June 2016):
 I don't bring my phone to the bathroom UNLESS there is a really good reason, like I KNOW I'm due to receive an important call/text.
When my husband was hospitalized, when my dad was hospitalized - those kind of situations.
I think her explanation makes sense. SPECIALLY when it involves her child. And like uncle Wise said, if the ex is a tad unreliable or forgetful it makes PERFECT sense.
I think you need to chill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): Maybe she feels uncomfortable texting her ex around you. Maybe she thinks it would bother you.
That would also make sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2016): She voluntarily offered you a feasible and plausible explanation. She apparently saw the angst in the expression on your face. She had her child on her mind. Don't forget she's a mother. Imagine the child waiting after school with no one there to pick her up. It was in the back of her mind all the while; and this is going to be the situation when you date someone with children. They are always on a good parent's mind. No matter where they are, or what they're doing! If her ex is unreliable, she wouldn't rest until she reminded him. If she couldn't do it herself, she made sure it was done. Don't jump to conclusions!
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (10 June 2016):
 Yes, I think you are over thinking this.
Most people bring their phone into the bathroom, especially if they are going to be there a bit. I'll catch up on a news article or play a game while taking care of business.
She did have sex with you so I would have a hard time imagining that she'd be lining up another round just after you finish. It could happen, but just unlikely.
I think she offered you a very plausible explanation and if you have no other suspicions to go on, I think your fears are pretty much unwarranted.
Eddie
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2016): Multitasking is something women do :) Unless she is always hiding from you when doing something (texting, reading emails...) I wouldn't worry.
Are there any other reasons for concern?
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