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writes:I'm a single male and work, there's a female at work whose caught my eye and she is attractive. She always looks at me, smiles and gives me hugs and chats to me. I'd like to ask her out but the problem is, I'm not sure if im her type or not or what type of men she goes for. I've not asked if she has a bf and tried not to make it obvious.How should I ask her out?Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2016): Good for you, OP!
Let us know how it works out.
I hope it works out in your favour.
You sound like a very nice guy! ;)
If she is smart, she will say yes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2016): I'm going to go in for the kill and simply ask her out, and I don't want to have any regrets about not doing that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2016): Why not ask her out?
Life is short.
Take a chance.
You never know until you try.
Look at it this way:
If you don't, what could you live with? The regret of being turned down because you asked her out? OR the regret of never knowing what could have been and kicking yourself for the rest of your life for not even trying?
Out of your league?
Well, lots of guys think this way about girls they like. They put her on a pedestal.
My BF thought I was out of his league. He pursued me anyway. We've been together for 3 years now. :)
I said it's always better to try. See what's behind door number 3! LOL
Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2016): I appreciate the advice that's being offered to me by yourselves. I've not had the courage to ask her out for lunch, but it has crossed my mind on whether to.
As aunt honesty says I need to gain the confidence, and hopefully I'll be able to. She is single as I found out from a friend ive spoken to, that she is. All I need to do now is nip this in the bud.
Sometimes a male likes to aim high with an attractive woman sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't do.
But I do like her as a person, as she's lovely.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (16 June 2016):
 One of my better lines - which works when a woman has given me as much hinting as this one has given to you - is this:
"So... I noticed that you hug me and chat with me pretty often... Do you have any plans for the next 25-or-so years?"
Works 1/2 the time.... but that's as good as this line: "Say, I think I recognize you. Didn't we go to different schools together?"
Good luck....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 June 2016):
 You need to try and gain some confidence. So far the signs are good, she hugs you, chats and smiles. It is all positive. I would try and find out first if she is single before you make a move, otherwise it may be awkward, maybe ask people at work if they know. Also keep in mind that it can be awkward if it doesn't work out when you both still have to work together, so try and remember that and ask yourself is it worth it.
Off course it can be scary asking someone out, I guess just ask her does she want to go for lunch with you? Or hey you heard of a good movie out in cinema would she like to come watch it with you? Or maybe ask is she free for a drink and dinner over the weekend. Good luck. Let us know how you get on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 June 2016):
 She's smiling at you and giving you hugs etc.
have you ever asked her to get lunch with you? I'd go for that to start. "Hey wanna grab lunch together on Tuesday"
make it specific don't use the "some day" or "some time"
pick a date that works and ask
if she says she can't but offers another option that's a good sign. NOT offering another option is a sign that she's not as interested as she may appear. (she does appear it to me)
The only problem is dating someone at work can be uncomfortable if it does not work out.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (16 June 2016):
If you think she is "out of your league," dont even bother thinking of her again as your chances with her are less than zero.
No woman wants a man who thinks he is less than her.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (16 June 2016):
 Well you could ask her to lunch. Or an after work drink.
You could also ask her friends if shes single. That seems the best option.
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