How do I stop overthinking my insecurities and thinking my boyfriend is cheating?
Q. Hi guys. I just wanted to come on here and get everything of my mind. Il try to give as many details as possible I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and although that might not seem like a long time to some, and like we have...
A. 3 August 2020: I would say that if the counselling sessions are not working then perhaps medication for your anxiety would be a valid option for you?... (read in full...)
I didn't disclose everything that happened and now its too late to tell my boyfriend
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend broke up with me and we were not together for a month (second time spitting up). I thought this was it for good this time. I slept with someone else during this time as did he ... both telling each other. Yet i did also kiss ...
A. 3 August 2020: Hi there, It's not too late to be honest and to be completely frank with you, what you did when you were apart is absolutely none of his business. It's very good of you to have both told each other about sexual partners you had whilst apart but... (read in full...)
My husband said he would slap me if I did that again
Q. Please advise My husband and I went for a hike yesterday with hope we would be able to socially distance. We wore our masks of course. As he was studying the trail map another man (masked) came and stood next to him also wanting to look at the m...
A. 3 August 2020: In absolutely honestly I feel you've taken this a little bit to heart. A threat of violence is actually more common than you think in relationships. It's only when actual violence passes between you that there can be a real problem. I feel here tha... (read in full...)
What are your experiences in knowing when it's the right time to have kids?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years-engaged for 9. He's 37 I'm 31. We've lived at my moms house for many years trying to save enough money to buy our first home and subsequently get married. We're close to building our home ...
A. 3 August 2020: The honest answer I can give is there is never a right time to have children. Raising children brings with it so many unexpected things you can never fully be prepared. The fact that you have nearly completed building your own home makes you in a ... (read in full...)
Two men not sure which one to choose
Q. My age is a big factor in this situation. I have 2 male friends who have a liking towards me. Well call one A and 1 B , A i have known longest but he isnt 'stable' doesnt have a regular job and can be up and down with things but said he wants kids ...
A. 3 August 2020: Hello dear, It sounds that a child is something you are definitely wanting in your life. I am sorry to if I sound harsh here but perhaps neither are suitable? Mr A does not sound like somebody who is fully equipped to take care of a child with not... (read in full...)
I've had sex many times with husband but still can't have an orgasm
Q. Hi! I just got married 12 days ago, and I was a virgin on my wedding night. I have had sex with my husband many times now, but not once has he made me orgasm. I have lied to him telling him I have but I am starting to get frustrated a bit. I am ...
A. 17 January 2013: You need to RELAX first of all. If you sit around and worry about this all day it's never going to happen. You are meant to enjoy sex not worry about the ultimate goal. It's not all about an orgasm. You are having sex to enjoy each others bodies and ... (read in full...)
I feel like my bf doesn't consider me because he wont do sexual favors and forgets me on holidays what do I do?
Q. I have a small problem that is difficult to over look. My bf doesnt ever want to go down on me. When we first got together he would say how he did it to his ex, which of course was annoying because he was just doing it to brag... we have been ...
A. 17 January 2013: When you say you have a family together do you mean a child? If so I feel very sorry for you. This man sounds like one of the most selfish and heartless men I've ever heard of. He expects you to pander to any whim he wants in the bedroom (and you do ... (read in full...)
Is this ok to leave your partner at home and travel overseas with your ex?
Q. My partner wants to go away with his ex without me, even though they have been friends 15 years i struggle with this as his friend waited till we were in a solid committed monogamous relationship, then he behaved badly and chose to not get to know ...
A. 17 January 2013: Have his stuff ready and packed when he gets back.... (read in full...)
The girl has herpes and I dont. But we want to be together. Advice?
Q. How is it going. I have been hanging out with a girl lately and we want to date. She is really cute and funny and smart and I really like her. But it turnes out she was raped a few years back and wound up with genital hepes out of the deal. She was ...
A. 17 January 2013: This link may be of help. http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/genital-herpes-sex-life... (read in full...)
Am I too traditional? If a guy was attached, is it ok for him to go out one on one with a female friend?
Q. Hello all, I was wondering if a guy was attached, is it ok for him to go out one on one with a female friend? Personally I wouldn't go out with an attached guy one on one even if we're just friends because I find it weird, and maybe a little disr...
A. 16 January 2013: If I was in your situation and it was my husband going for dinner or out with a woman he used to have sex with then I would chain him to the living room sofa. I trust my husband 100% that he wouldn't do anything. But after having had a child a few ... (read in full...)
My wife thinks I'm seeing other women. How can we sort this out?
Q. Hi all. I got a prob that I think I’m stuck with. I been married for year and half and things ain’t too pretty. My wife is thinking that I’m seeing other women and hiding things from her. I have a friend, T, that lives south of England, I’m...
A. 16 January 2013: Having read the messages you are thankful for and not the others it seems you are very oneminded about all of this. Are you having marital problems other than this? Did you and your wife have a fun and healthy sex life before all this started? If ... (read in full...)
How to get over someone you have to see everyday?
Q. Okay so I guess at this point I have no choice but to try and get over this man that seemingly captured my heart. My question is, how do you get over someone you have to see every day?...
A. 16 January 2013: This is a very short question and doesn't leave much room for advice really unless you can expand on it a little? What happened with this man? What went wrong?... (read in full...)
Why don't I want sex?
Q. I get horny and always want to masturbate but when the person I'm in a relationship with tries to start anything I don't want to! They say they just want to have that connection with me...but I can't get in the right mood. I'm young...and ...
A. 16 January 2013: I think because you really enjoy masturbation perhaps you are frightened of having to please someone else and that someone else not being able to please you as much as you please yourself? Therefore you aren't wanting to have sex because you think ... (read in full...)
He cheated and I continuously gave him grief. How do I let him know that I am sorry?
Q. Hi guys Little advice please. 7 months ago i found out my parnter had been cheating on me at the beginning of the year. i knew he was up to no good and my suspicions were confirmed when she contacted me months down the line telling me she h...
A. 16 January 2013: Anonymous Read who said: "First of all, I hate this "once a cheater, always a cheater" mentality that some people have. A million different reasons cause a person to cheat, and it's not fair to come to the same conclusion considering all of those ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and want to keep the baby but I have some doubts and my BF wants me to have an abortion. Any advise?
Q. I am 8 Weeks pregnant but I am only 20 years old. I have no clue whether or not I am going to keep this baby. I know that there are plenty of younger mothers these days, but I never intended in being one of them. When I was younger I always ...
A. 16 January 2013: This is totally your decision hun. Nobody else can do this for you. All I can say is that I got pregnant in February last year. My circumstances were a little different. I had been living with my partner (then fiancee) for 14 months at the time and ... (read in full...)
I feel good but bad at he same time. I told my FWB that I'd developed feelings for him. Now he wants a break?
Q. Oh gosh, okay, sorry if this is a little long it may just end up viewed as venting. I've been seeing this guy and I've posted about this situation a couple of months ago. Well, we continued seeing each other and it seems now that it was clearly ...
A. 16 January 2013: I think this man must have been hurt in his previous relationship with the ex where a child was produced. He is probably not wanting to bring his feelings into this as he may be frightened of getting hurt again. But I'm afraid to say, if you have... (read in full...)
How can I tell this girl who I've kissed that I think she's the one? Trouble is it's now a LDR
Q. Hi im 14 and live in one place in my state but there is this girl who I like but she lives in another place in my state. I don't know how to tell her my feelings, especially that she's the girl for me. But the major problem is that we've kissed b...
A. 16 January 2013: A lot of people will most likely say she isn't the one but then again I know couples who have been together since they were 14 and are still together 20 years later. I think what you have to do is take your time with this and don't expect too much... (read in full...)
Married man curious about a tranny
Q. I have been married for there years. I have become very curious about transsexuals and think I might want to try having sex with one. I am curious what anal sex feels like. I don't know if that makes me a bisexual?. My wife caught me looking at ...
A. 16 January 2013: Is this really worth losing your marriage over? What problems do you have in your marriage? If you are seriously considering cheating on your wife with a man then it tells me you have some serious marital issues going on. Surely when you married... (read in full...)
After all these years, why do I still think about my past love?
Q. I volounteer at the local youth center, and with the help of my mentors have building up a good network systems. About 4 years ago I met this particular youth worker, at the time I really didn't see how amazing he was till after I got to know hi...
A. 16 January 2013: Whilst you still continue to invest yourself in this man you are not allowing yourself to move on and find someone else. You may have felt before that this man was your soulmate or "sector mentor" as you put it but you've said yourself he has ... (read in full...)
Is he interested? Do I text him or wait?
Q. Ok, well on Hogmanay [mod note: New Year's Eve] I met this guy. He seemed very nice and we kissed. The conversation flowed really well but we were both drunk. He asked for my number and for a whole week he text me constantly. He then stopped texting ...
A. 16 January 2013: At your age you have two choices: You can either go for it and text him and tell him how you feel, losing nothing as you are so young and interested men will come and go like the wind. Or you can not bother waiting around for him to make a real ... (read in full...)
We've been a couple for three years. Yet he's told me the thought of sex terrifies him. What do I say to discuss this problem with him?
Q. Ok, so I've been with this guy for about 3 years now. I'll be 18 in 4 days and he just turned 20 two months ago. He's is literally my best friend and we do everything together, we are inseperable. Its coming time to where hes getting his own plac...
A. 15 January 2013: In that case this man definitely needs to speak to a counsellor as this doesn't sound like something he can cope with and treat on his own. He needs to go back to the root cause of why he is so scared of having sex, back to his childhood where he ... (read in full...)
Am I Just Going Through Baby Fever? Any thoughts ?
Q. Hey everyone! I didn't know where else to get advice and you all always help me through everytime so I'm going to give it a whirl again. I am 20 years old going to be 21 in 3 months and I think I am going through baby fever! Everyone is havin...
A. 15 January 2013: Are you sure you want to really do this? I know you really want a baby and feel you are ready but how disappointed are you going to feel if you meet an amazing man who you would love to spend the rest of your life with and have children with and ... (read in full...)
I love 2 men and don't want to hurt either of them
Q. I am in a very weird position. I love two men! I was dating a man in the army who was just about to deploy, he said he really likes me etc etc Then he went away and we decided to talk about taking our relationship further when he comes back. He is ...
A. 15 January 2013: Firstly I have to ask: Do you have any children yourself? If not, you are a young woman and do you really want to be with a man who already has a child and is still technically married? As harsh as that sounds its true. You yourself haven't ... (read in full...)
Crush central. How do I get to know him better? And he's joining the army soon. And I'm moving far away.
Q. I'm in my last year of high school and i realize ive got it sooo bad for this guy in my grade. We don't have any classes together but when he talks to people I know everything I need to know. He's not like really good-looking, he's not popular...
A. 15 January 2013: You've got 2 choices here. You either go for it and tell him how you feel. The worst he could say is no. You could enjoy the last few months you have together and then perhaps work on a long distance relationship although they aren't always ... (read in full...)
Don't want to be a roadblock to her happiness. How do I stop thinking about my ex and my best friend?
Q. Okay so I was dating this guy for about a year and seven months, we broke up a few days ago. In July I moved to a new state and started at a new school in August. This girl and I became really close with each other and now we're best friends. My ...
A. 15 January 2013: You are sooo young and this is such a common tale that I have read and heard a thousand times. You may be down and feel awful about it now but you will get over it. Concentrate on your studies, get yourself a part time job even if you can at your ... (read in full...)
I need some help with the jealousy I experiencing over two friends. I need your help please?
Q. Ok, here is my story. I have these 2 friends they are girls and I am a girl as well. I met my first friend at work about 2 years ago (Friend A) and Friend B came in a year later. By this time Friend A and I got close, hung out, had fun and be...
A. 15 January 2013: Are you sure you are 22-25 because this sounds very playground highschool to me? You need to tell friend b to grow up and stop being pathetic and that you can be friends with whoever you want to be. If she is jealous of you two she needs to just get ... (read in full...)
We've been a couple for three years. Yet he's told me the thought of sex terrifies him. What do I say to discuss this problem with him?
Q. Ok, so I've been with this guy for about 3 years now. I'll be 18 in 4 days and he just turned 20 two months ago. He's is literally my best friend and we do everything together, we are inseperable. Its coming time to where hes getting his own plac...
A. 15 January 2013: You need to really rethink all of this. Sex is not just about having children. It is a sacred and extremely important pleasurable intimacy that you share with your loving partner. Without this a relationship will not function properly. Sex ... (read in full...)
How does a man know what "type" of girls is he interested in?
Q. Dear readers I'm am 19 years of age And I was just wondering how a man knows when he discovers the "type" of girls he is interested in. A lot of friends say that I like blondes and sure I have dated a few blonde girls but the only proper rela...
A. 15 January 2013: I don't believe in people preferring "types" at all. I think that men and women only put people into type categories based on what is most visually appealing to them in a sexual sense. When you fall in love thats completely different. You may f... (read in full...)
I really like him and want to get more intimate with him. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this great guy for about 3 months, Hes nice to me, Opens the door for me, always pays for diner.I met his mom an dad. Hes on the shy side, I have to grab his hand always first than he holds it.I want to get closer to him, but ...
A. 15 January 2013: The only way you are going to sort this one hun is talking to him. You need to tell him how you feel about him and that you want to be more intimate. If he is shy then you perhaps need to help him out a little and make the first move. But commun... (read in full...)
He wants to be faithful to his girlfriend, but I want to tell him how I feel. Is this a good idea?
Q. I met this guy about a year ago and recently, in September, we began to hang out and we became "close" like intimate. I liked him and I still do. The problem is that he has a girlfriend now. For about two months, we fell off because of a conflict ...
A. 15 January 2013: If he is still contacting you then you should tell him that if he doesn't want to talk to you anymore then he should stop it! Tell him it's messing with your head and you want to move on if he is with this new girl. Sounds like he's playing you a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband to evict him? And that I've been flirting with the younger cute male student we sub-let a room to?
Q. Times have been hard lately for my husband and I so we got a room mate to help split the rent of our 3 bedroom 3 bathroom home.I'm 27 and my husband is 29 our new room mate is a 20 year old college student, pretty quit and geeky. I'm a stay at home ...
A. 14 January 2013: First of all what you should do is feel pretty damn guilty about what you've been doing. Your husband has moved a younger man into your home thinking nothing would ever happen and trusted you enough to be at home all day and you do this to him! ... (read in full...)
In love with my cousin but he broke it off due to "family talk". How can I get him back?
Q. I'm in love with my cousin. We were together first as best friends for years, we be came closer after he got divorced. I helped him get thru it and helped him become more confident. We started hanging out more and more as we were both lonely. O...
A. 14 January 2013: I am trying to read this as the story between a woman and a man but I really am struggling. To me, the fact that being able to have a relationship with your cousin is actually legal makes me feel a little queasy. I mean, just think, his parent ... (read in full...)
My wife told me she is attracted to her boss! I'm worried, what should I do?
Q. My wife of 14 years out of the blue while we are lying down cuddling turns to me and tells me she is attracted to someone at work. I was kind of stunned by this and didn't know what to say, then she tells me its her boss. She says she doesn't ...
A. 14 January 2013: I think that was very honest of your wife to say that. It was a little stupid because she has now given you cause to doubt but she has perhaps thought of him a few times and felt a little guilty and wanted to share that with you to release some of ... (read in full...)
My Bf will be so hurt. I cheated over Christmas with a work colleague. What should I do now?
Q. Need some advice,I understand if you judge me, I hate myself for it..... Me and my boyfriend of 2 years went through a miserable period over Christmas, felt really down about it. I had my works Christmas party where I found myself really drunk, ...
A. 14 January 2013: You need to be honest with your fella and deal with whatever consequences are thrown back at you. I really do not understand people who cheat. I have been with my now husband a few years and we have a little girl together and I could not imagine ... (read in full...)
Do I choose my boyfriend, or my home country?
Q. This is about the choices I have. My boyfriend has decided to live in another country, as he's found there some really good educational and professional opportunities. I am still a student myself, went to university overseas, but before we got to...
A. 14 January 2013: Education is very important BUT think of it this way: When you 're old and lying in your bed and your time on this earth is nearly over do you want to go knowing that you gave love the best shot you could or do you want to go with a few degrees and ... (read in full...)
How can I not be cold hearted?
Q. Hi, Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how i can change from being cold hearted. I know im like this from being messed around by men (aswell as seeing me father treat my mother badly from a young age) and it stops me from developing...
A. 14 January 2013: My advice would be, wait until you find that special person. You cannot control your heart, none of us can. Even though you feel you are cold hearted because of what you saw growing up and your experience of relationships so far doesn't mean you ... (read in full...)
He wants to be faithful to his girlfriend, but I want to tell him how I feel. Is this a good idea?
Q. I met this guy about a year ago and recently, in September, we began to hang out and we became "close" like intimate. I liked him and I still do. The problem is that he has a girlfriend now. For about two months, we fell off because of a conflict ...
A. 14 January 2013: Here's the answer: You don't. You back off. This man has told you himself that he doesn't feel he should talk to you because he wants to stay faithful to his girlfriend and I think that is downright refreshing! He has moved on and hasn't responded ... (read in full...)
I havent spoken to her in 2 years but I still cant forget about her!
Q. hi everyone, I really want to know how to truly forget someone. I haven't talked to her for more than two years but today I still can't forget her. Me and her never were in a relationship but we were almost there. In the past two years, I have be...
A. 14 January 2013: If you were never in a relationship then what do you feel you are actually missing? Her friendship? There must be a reason you two haven't spoken in 2 years? You must learn to let go and move on. It sounds to me like she was your first love, or... (read in full...)
My sisters always try to be in the spotlight and steal my friends away
Q. Hi, I am 19 and I have 2 younger sisters who are 17 and 16. My sisters and I are VERY different, they are the 'school queen' kind of girls who bully other people for fun, they are beautiful and popular and have bunch of (fake) friends. I am a ...
A. 14 January 2013: If these "friends" you are talking about are real friends at all then they will be there for you when you need them. If they are more interested in hanging out with your sisters then leave them to it and get on with your life. To be honest this all ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends boyfriend 2 days before their baby is due. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've had this friend for 3 years. Me and her met because I hooked up with her boyfriend unknowingly. He split with her before I found out, but still cheated on her with me. Then cheated on me with her. So me and her became friends, long story sh...
A. 14 January 2013: I have to say this story made me feel sick to my stomach. As a mother myself I can honestly say that when you are about to have a baby you are at your absolute most vulnerable and need the support of your partner 100 percent. I understand that you ... (read in full...)
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