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*wesomeness97
writes:Okay so I was dating this guy for about a year and seven months, we broke up a few days ago. In July I moved to a new state and started at a new school in August. This girl and I became really close with each other and now we're best friends. My ex and my best friend became friends after I introduced them to each other. While I was with my ex I would get jealous sometimes when he and my friend would hang out together because I felt like he was falling out of love with me and for her. I kept it to myself for a few days, but eventually he found out and we talked about it and made up. But I kind of knew him and her would end up together, as much as it pains me to say this, they're like a match made in heaven.Anyway, today my friend told me that they both have a thing for each other and are somewhat together. She felt really bad and told me that if I was uncomfortable with it then I just had to tell her and she would leave him. But I don't want to be a roadblock in my best friend's happiness or in my friends happiness (my ex and I decided on being friends after we broke up). So I was talking with my ex about it and he admitted to it. I could tell that he felt bad too. He kept apologizing and he told me that he felt like a bad person, but I know it's not his fault (it's no one’s fault if you ask me).My best friend and my ex are perfect for each other. I've accepted it, but I know that it's going to be hard to get over it and get used to it especially because my ex was my first love. I'm not mad or angry with either one of them because I know they didn't mean for it to happen. They couldn't control what they were feeling or the way they feeling. They never snuck around behind my back or did anything that would make me feel like I had lost their trust. My ex was a really great boyfriend and really good friend and my best friend is the most amazing person someone could have as a friend. By the way, my ex didn't break up with me for my friend. I just need advice on how to deal with it and move on from it. Please help!
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reader, awesomeness97 +, writes (15 January 2013):
awesomeness97 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice, I will continue to be friends with both of them. They're both really understanding about everything and won't do anything around me to make me uncomfortable. No, I have not been sexually active.
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reader, mrswaldhauser  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 You are sooo young and this is such a common tale that I have read and heard a thousand times. You may be down and feel awful about it now but you will get over it. Concentrate on your studies, get yourself a part time job even if you can at your age to keep yourself occupied. You've got a long way to go in love and relationships yet, this is just a starter. I think your friend and ex were very good to be so honest with you and took your feelings into account and spoke to you openly about it all. I think you should continue being friends with them and be there for them both if you can. Are you sexually active? I sincerely hope not, but not being sexually involved with the ex will make this ten times easier than if you experience something similar when you are older.
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