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30-35,
*hatiswrongwithme
writes:This is about the choices I have. My boyfriend has decided to live in another country, as he's found there some really good educational and professional opportunities. I am still a student myself, went to university overseas, but before we got together I had my heart set on going back home and starting a different degree, as I was pretty miserable with both being away from home and my choice of degree. However, I started reconsidering things as our relationship progressed. I'm extremely in love with him; I truly believe he is my soulmate. In the months we were together (almost a year), I started feeling less depressed about my degree and my life away from home and started considering sticking to this career path and looking for a job here. I was in fact truly happy. I can definitely see myself with him long term and living together after I graduate. I know he loves me, yet I understand he cannot sacrifice a brilliant professional future for me. I however, do not have any stable career prospect to hold on to at the moment. I have not yet managed to secure a job here and I am concerned about this. I believe I would have better chances of employment by going to my home country and switching to a completely different sector (what I originally wanted to do). It would be safer, though it would take much longer and I would also have a much lower income at the end than I might be able to earn elsewhere. There's also the fact that I love my country and my family. But choosing home would mean losing him, which I'm not sure how I would handle. My life was a disaster before him, so it'd not like I lost my independence/personality by getting into this relationship; in fact, it helped me a lot. Sorry for the long post; I'd appreciate some insight into this. What have people done in similar situations?
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reader, mrswaldhauser  +, writes (14 January 2013):
 Education is very important BUT think of it this way: When you 're old and lying in your bed and your time on this earth is nearly over do you want to go knowing that you gave love the best shot you could or do you want to go with a few degrees and a good career under your belt? A degree and a great career can be gotten anywhere in the world but if you think this man is your soulmate then go for it! Even if you are wrong the worst that will happen is you have to relocate or even study elsewhere. You cannot let this man leave your life if you truly feel the way you do. Love like that is priceless and a rarity, careers and degrees are as common as pennies.
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reader, puppylove101  +, writes (11 January 2013):
 My own opinion is that your education should come first. But, in a scenario if you two go your seperate ways, there is a big chance that you two will meet new people. But, in the other scenario you two arent correct for each other and you wind up with nothing there. So, I suggest thinking about your own future before his and yours as a whole. I hope verything works out for you.
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