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writes:How is it going. I have been hanging out with a girl lately and we want to date. She is really cute and funny and smart and I really like her. But it turnes out she was raped a few years back and wound up with genital hepes out of the deal. She was very sad to tell me this and it made me feel pretty sad to. After further review of the situation IV decided I want to try to make it work. BUT I do not want to catch this stuff in the prosses. IV heard of couples that last years without spreading to there partner. so how would one do this? We really do like eachother and we would be very sad if we had to go separate ways because of this. Lay this out on the table for me so I can understand it. How does this virus work, how contagious is this stuff, how else can it be spread besides sex, what can we both do to help reduce my chances of catching it? She has pills for break outs and what not but I have heard of an anti viral for the person who doesn't have it. Is this true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): There's no vaccine or antiviral for the unaffected partner. No treatment for you until you get the virus. I feel for you and your girlfriend. There are things you can do reduce transmission of the virus like always using condoms and avoid sex completely if she has an outbreak. I got herpes after someone with oral herpes gave me oral sex. I have it for life now. I'm single at the moment, and one of the things that holds me back from forming new relationships is having to tell them about the herpes. I've had 2 long term relationships since my diagnosis, and luckily I didn't transmit the virus to either. Both knew I had herpes and chose to have sex without condoms (I didn't have any other STDs and was on the pill). I only ever had one outbreak, the first one. So for years I've had it with no symptoms at all. I used to take Lysine supplements to prevent a breakout but since I've been single, I haven't bothered and still no outbreak. I think if you're really serious about this girl you should take all necessary precautions but go ahead and have a sex life. The worst case scenario is you get it too, and although that feels like the end of the world it isn't. I try to think of it as just carrying the cold sore virus but down there. The big issue is definitely telling potential partners.
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reader, Ennismt +, writes (18 January 2013):
Ennismt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks I had already read that page but it was worth reading again. I'm just trying to get as edducated as possible.
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reader, mrswaldhauser  +, writes (17 January 2013):
 This link may be of help.http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/guide/genital-herpes-sex-life
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