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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I get horny and always want to masturbate but when the person I'm in a relationship with tries to start anything I don't want to! They say they just want to have that connection with me...but I can't get in the right mood. I'm young...and healthy...work out do as I should, eat pretty healthy. Take vitamins for what I can't eat. I'm plenty satisfied when I do want to...and I'm still totally in love with them. But why don't I want to?? I'm attracted to them, make a lot of sex jokes, and always get myself worked up just looking at them. But why don't I want to? Is something wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Yes I admit I am a teenager. Most people my age LOVE it. I just don't understand. I have been in a long term relationship with them for almost 3 years. And it's never been a problem trying to satisfy me. I've been perfectly genuine and true about what I want and feel. And I do believe I am ready. I treat them properly and with respect and in return they try to me. Nothing too terrible happened in my past growing up. So I don't understand why. Maybe I do watch too much porn?? Ill try it out see if it works
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2013): I wouldnt worry about it but I would go to your doctor about talking to someone about it. Just to help you get to the bottom of why you feel like that because it may something from your past buried deep within you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2013): Have you ever had sexual intercourse with a women before?
Perhaps you are watching porn a bit too much and when it comes to being with a real women, you are insecure and not sure how it will go? It's really hard to say...
Can you hold hands, kiss, hug and cuddle up with a women? Are you an effectionate person? If you cannot or are not any of these things, maybe work on that first and the rest will come? I am taking guesses here...
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reader, Dayzy  +, writes (16 January 2013):
Have you spoken to your GP about this. If he thinks there is a problem he may refer you to someone who can help. You say you make a lot of sex jokes. This suggests you might be a teenager. If not I suggest you stop the sex jokes as they can be creepy. Take a breath, work more on your relationships with these people and stop thinking of them as sexual objects. Are you treating these people with the respect that they are entitled to?
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reader, mrswaldhauser  +, writes (16 January 2013):
 I think because you really enjoy masturbation perhaps you are frightened of having to please someone else and that someone else not being able to please you as much as you please yourself? Therefore you aren't wanting to have sex because you think at the back of your mind "I can do this fine by myself". I think you need to look at sex with your partner in more detail. It's not just about sexual pleasure and the fact that you keep mentioning masturbation shows you see it as only that. Are you worried about your performance and having to cater to someone elses needs other than your own? Do you have difficult with intimacy due to anything you went through growing up? Maybe you don't want to get that close with someone for a reason you have really thought about yet.
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