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writes:Hi im 14 and live in one place in my state but there is this girl who I like but she lives in another place in my state.I don't know how to tell her my feelings, especially that she's the girl for me. But the major problem is that we've kissed before. I said that this is the girl for me, some but people say she's not.Please reply because I can really use the help right now Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2013):
 how far apart are you guys... because I gotta tell you, unless you go to the same school or live in the same neighborhood or close enough, it's an LDR at your age and it probably will not work in the long run.
she may be the one, heck my grandparents met in the orphanage at ages 10 and 12.... but they did not marry till they were both nearly 30! (which was VERY VERY VERY OLD to get married back then) BUT if you do not have the ability to spend a lot of time together I'm not sure how you expect to find out.
so how often will you see her?
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reader, Dayzy  +, writes (16 January 2013):
Who is saying that she's not the girl for you and why. If it is your parents and close friends it might be a good idea to think about what their objections are.
14 might feel grown up to you now but it is actually still very young. It is likely that you will have strong romantic feelings for more than one girl over the next few years so don't be too quick to decide if someone is "the one". Just as you might have different friends that you like for various reasons, you will probably also meet different girls and like them all too. Enjoy being young and think about all of the exciting things you have to look forward to like fun things you can do with friends and maybe even places to which you can travel.
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reader, mrswaldhauser  +, writes (16 January 2013):
 A lot of people will most likely say she isn't the one but then again I know couples who have been together since they were 14 and are still together 20 years later. I think what you have to do is take your time with this and don't expect too much. You are very young and it's so lovely that you think this girl is "the one" but please be open to yourself and others as there is also the chance that she may not be. I was your age once and everything that happens in love seems to be the be all and end all and is so important but as you grow older you become much wiser and learn more about love. If this girl lives somewhere else there isn't really much you can do about that, especially at your age. The only things I could suggest is maybe writing to her or keeping in contact online? If you still feel the same about her as you get older then you could go and visit her, that is of course if her feelings are still the same about you too. Chin up. This is your first lesson in love and there will be many more to come. You never know, in twenty years you might look back on this and be able to say to your wife "I knew you were the one for me when we were 14" :)
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