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writes:I'm in my last year of high school and i realize ive got it sooo bad for this guy in my grade. We don't have any classes together but when he talks to people I know everything I need to know. He's not like really good-looking, he's not popular, but WOW sometimes i think he might be the one. I feel like he knows everything in the universe but he acts quiet so that no one will know, and he gets really good grades but he doesn't try and he doesn't want to stand out.But the thing is he never hangs around anyone, or acts interested in girls (or even guys). I dont think he's antisocial I think he just doesn't want to be bothered with people. I feel like he'd never want to date me, or anyone for that matter.Also second semester is starting soon which means there's like 3 months left until we graduate. And he's going to join the army 'because he's wanted to for years and everyone knows. And I'm going to go to a different country. It freaks me out because even if we do get together we'd still be separated and jesus there's the possibility he could die on the field.There's just a lot of problems but when I saw him and heard him speak I felt like immediately I couldn't shake him off. First and foremost I'd love to get to know him better but he just seems to not be the kind of guy who would like courting. but I can't sleep or focus on anything because of him, help? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 Oh you have a crush on this guy bad don’t you?
OP you said: “sometimes i think he might be the one.” I can pretty much assure you dear , he’s not “the one”. IN fact, we really don’t have ONE… we have OPTIONS.
So you like him based on what you have seen and heard right?
OP then said: “I feel like he knows everything in the universe but he acts quiet so that no one will know, and he gets really good grades but he doesn't try and he doesn't want to stand out.”
First thing you must do is knock him off the pedestal you have him on. He does not know everything in the universe. He probably doesn’t know half of what you think he knows. And he probably is just nerdy and shy.
And you… with the drama…. “he could die on the field” so do football players.
I agree with mrswaldhauser that you have two choices… go for it and risk him saying no thanks or suffer this crush forever.
Maybe you guys will be great friends… maybe you will find out in private he picks his nose and farts on the dog…..
I will tell you that a person has two faces.. the public face and the private face. Folks think my hubby is such a nice guy and he’s not he’s a jerk. But only I get to see it.
I think for your own sanity you should ask him to go get a soda or something and talk to him.
Get him off the pedestal you have him on. Bring him down to earth and see him as the boy he is.
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reader, mrswaldhauser  +, writes (15 January 2013):
 You've got 2 choices here. You either go for it and tell him how you feel. The worst he could say is no. You could enjoy the last few months you have together and then perhaps work on a long distance relationship although they aren't always successful and the strain whilst your studying and he's serving will be intense. OR you could try and forget him and let him go and wait for somebody else. You're only a young thing and you may not feel there is anybody else right now for you because you are so into this one guy, but trust me, there is. It's your head or your heart. Your choice. p.s. I always follow my heart ;) that way I know when I die I can say I lived with no regrets when it came to love.
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