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*isztoria
writes:Hey guys. So I (27yrs) just started dating this older gentleman (45yrs) whom I've grown quite fond of. We've been dating for a few months now. He doesn't outwardly flirt with me, but he use to ask how I was feeling and if I was having a good day. We talk about a variety of topics, mostly intellectually stimulating, which is nice since I'm use to dating guys who want to sleep with me on the first date. He travels a lot out of the country for work, so he usually sends me long texts and then respond to mine within 24 hours. However, lately he's been home and he doesn't respond at all some days and when he does, he rarely responds to the content I send. He talks about his day and what he's currently doing. I sent him a text letting him know I passed my teaching exam and that I was accepted into an Ivy League school and he didn't congratulate me or say anything about it. He text a day later talking about his mother and his trip to his family's house. I guess my question is how do I even begin to respond to him when he ignores my good news? Should I tell him how I feel or just leave it alone and see if things change? I'm the type to run as soon as I feel like the guy's losing interest, but this technique has left me single and jaded. Please help!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 January 2017):
 I'd be more concerned about his marital status than his texting skills if I were you.
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reader, misztoria +, writes (6 January 2017):
misztoria is verified as being by the original poster of the question I was wondering if the age difference makes a difference in his texting style? He sends me texts that read like emails. It's always this long drawn out text that tells me what he did that day, what he's currently doing and what he plans to do. It drives me crazy, but I think he doesn't text people like 20-somethings, which makes sense because he's 45. I'll be sure to ask him if he received that particular text.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2017): Are you sure he got the text about the Ivy league school?
I would respond with : "That's great...but did you get the text about my news?!"
Seems like he could be a narcissist
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reader, misztoria +, writes (5 January 2017):
misztoria is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we do have face to face interactions, but I don't see him often due to him traveling out of the country. At least we Skype and I can tell he's in the foreign country he says he's in =)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 January 2017):
Say "I remember so well the day my divorce was finalized it was 00/00/00. It was one of the (insert word or words of your choice) days of my life. So when did you get yours finalized?" Then watch him closely as he responds. Of course this must be done in a face to face conversation, you DO have face to face conversations, right?
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reader, misztoria +, writes (4 January 2017):
misztoria is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe met on a very popular dating website and he was listed as divorced. I am too and he had mentioned during one of our dates that "when I was married..."
I have a very small suspicion that he may be still married or separated, but I don't know how to really ask without sounding accusatory. It's still early in the relationship and I don't want him to think I'm immature or skeptical.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 January 2017):
He isn't married by any chance?
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