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*ove him1991
writes:Well it all started about three years ago. we have been going out for three years and its just been so hard since day 1. Well first of all let me say he dont work he dont go to school and he is pratically like they say a bum. I work i am going to college. I loved him because he use to be so mature about things. he use to work and go to school he eventually got fired and got kicked out of school. Also our relationship has no trust at all. i dont know wat to do anymore. I have cheated before and he only knows about one time but its been more. from what i know he has no cheated on me but before when we barely started going out he left me for some other chick but eventually we got back together. i have caught him texting with other girls but that was about 1 year ago. since we got back together about 8 months ago i have not found nothing and we are always together i know he is not cheating well i hope. the problem is that i know he is not cheating cause all he does is stay at home when i call lay on the couch and do nothing but i still cant trust him. is it bacause i have cheated so much in the past that i think he is cheating on me too!! its cause i have accused him so much of cheating he has eventually with time truned into this bug time A** and hangs up on me every time i tell him he is cheating he calls me crazy and that i have problems cause i cant trust myself. I think i cheat not cause i like these guys but because they call me beautiful and give so much attention and my boyfriend dont give the attention i want. my sisters call me an attention grabbing Slut. eventually me and my boyfriend fight about 75 % pf time. just yesterday i was crying on the phone to phone to him yesterday tell him how much i loved him but how things changed and that i really need him to treat me better and he says stops accusing me and i dont have to call you crazy and scream at you. And its like he so tired of me crying that he acts like its nothing. so yesterday i fell asleep after crying and i woke up he had not called and i called him a B**** and he got so mad and said wow why would you call me that i was sleeping to and hung up on me. later that night he send me a message that said " And your the B**** and u kno wat its over F*** u and ur F***** miserable life" i just cryed cause i have this guy everything. i pay everything in the past three years i love his family and i dont know what to do. help please!!
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reader, misztoria +, writes (15 August 2009):
 It's not worth it, QuirkLady is completely right. If you have to cheat on him you might as well let him go because you're just hurting him and hurting yourself. Let him get his life together and you go do what you need to do. It's going to be hard, but it's really not worth it anymore, you've cheapend your relationship. Best of luck hun.
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (15 August 2009):
I am sorry if this is not the ans to your question...
but just read through this story that i read a few days back and it left a big impact on me. Hope it does the same on you
But before that Id like to tell yoi something. No person and relationship is perfect, it takes a lil effort to take it close to perfection. If your bf is a bum, try getting him the motivation to do something in life , may be if you love him? try to solve the problems starting from your own faults , because theyre the easiest to detect and correst. You already said you cheated on him a lot more..Now how can we blame others when we ourselves are not honest in the relationship and are responsible for a lot of problems in it.
However I pray for the best of you and your guy and your family
hope everything works out
and hope my story helps
here it goes:
Give Your Best To Relationships
A boy and a girl were playing together.
The boy had a collection of marbles.
The girl had some sweets with her.
The boy told the girl that he will give her
all his marbles in exchange for her sweets.
The girl agreed.
The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.
That night, the girl slept peacefully.
But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering
if the girl had hidden some sweets from him
the way he had hidden his best marble.
Moral:
If you don’t give your hundred percent in a relationship, you’ll always keep doubting
if the other person has given his/her
hundred percent..
This is applicable for any relationship like
love, employer-employee relationship etc.,
Give your hundred percent to everything
you do and sleep peacefully.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (15 August 2009):
 You have some nerve complaining about him while you're out there cheating on him. You don't cheat on someone you love, and you damn sure cannot complain about trust when you are breaking it right and left. You also can't complain about giving him everything when you're running around behind his back.
Your boyfriend is right to break up with you. How can he trust and be with someone who goes off with other men for attention and fights with him all the time? That's too much drama and I wonder why he put up with this for three years.
You seriously need to grow up before you get into another relationship.
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