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writes:I have a serious problem! My husband of many years spends most of his time and makes excuses to invite male friends to our house a little too often. He seels to enjoy their company more than mines and keeps away from me unless he wants to have sex with me. He does not look me straight in my eyes and tries to avoid sexual contact with me during the day. I also caught him masturbating while watching a man dancing provocatively and then he rewinded the DVD back to that part of the show. He did not know that I was watching him. When I asked him if he was gay he denied it.Another concern that I have is that he does not allow me to kiss, touch or be near him. I can only touch him during sex and then he insists that he have vaginal sex with me from behind. When he does that he becomes like the duracel bunny... he keeps going and going and going. Other sexual positions cause his prick to flop like easter bunny ears. He is almost bored to death by such positions.? Is my husband gay?I cannot take this anymore!He even has a male friend who comes to our house several times a week or he goes to the man's house and they spend alot of time together alone and behind closed doors. They always come up with stupid excuses why they see each other and then they end up talking about each others day and problems and usual things that I wish I could discuss with my husband. It all started when I told his friend how he treats me and his rules that I not touch him and allow him to pat my backside and get all excited when I wear a G string panty. When I am not at home he always seems to be just around the corner spending time for whatever reason with my husband! Do you think they could be just really good friends and not into each other?Help! I am confused and I don't want to misjudge them. But their behaviour is too suspicious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank those that answered my questions about my husbands lifestyle.
Your confirmation of his bisexuality gave me courage and hope that I am not crazy or imaging things. I have also decided to do the things that I love to do like sing and hopefully start writing music. I have been feeling so alone and hurt but now I am willing to start loving to live for me and my small kids. They need me and I am not afraid of who I am nor trying to be somebody else. I may not be what my husband wants but God knows I am here already, have kids with him and I still have alot of living to do. He is not going to take away my joy anymore. I am starting to feel sorry for him. I am going to make the best of my life and help my kids to do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): your gut is telling you be alarmed, very alarmed. he is not going to admit it to you even though you have questioned him abput his sexual preference. i think you are just the window dresser for your hb's secret life. i actually do not know how you are going to get the truth out. maybe talk to your close friend. has she noticed anything, a close family member, your minister. you have to talk to someone in your close family circle so that they too can be observant and maybe they know something you do not. all the signs are there.this disappearing for hours behind closed doors is worrying. it means that he maybe sexually active with his friend. talk to him about sexual health. get a checkup. HIV/AIDS and STIs are a reality. do you have kids? i do not think you can forewarn them about something like this when you do not have concret evidence. maybe talk to the hubby and ask him what he would do if people mention all his tendancies to the kids. surely he would want to protect them from any rumour / gossip. maybe this is your trumpcard. just be glad you were super observant and all indications are that there is hanky panky with the other men . whether your hb confesses is something else. this is emotionally exhausting i know but better to know the truth now and get on with your life than waste it hoping the evidence will disappear. take care and please get to the bottom of this problem. if your hb is havng sex with other men in your home that is blatant disrespect. his actions will have consequences.
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reader, misztoria  +, writes (15 August 2009):
 You're not going to like my answer but...I would say that he is bisexual if not completely gay. I had a male friend who acted the same way with his girlfriend. He became very aggressive in bed with her and only had sex with her from behind. I would ask him very discreetly about it and say it's ok if you do, make him feel comfortable or else he's just going to lie to you (most of them do at first). Aggressiveness is a big indicator because it's like they're trying to over compensate. If he was masturbating to a man dancing then I would say you should be concerned. Good luck hun.
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