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writes:So my ex and I broke up last October. I had posted a question this past January about trying to get my stuff back from him (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-he-doesnt-want-to-try-again-i.html#provide_answer). Well yesterday he called me out of no where after not speaking since X-mas. He asked how I was and told me about how he's in the police academy now and he was telling me his schedule then asked about mine. I was kind of in shock because till this day I still love him and while I thought I'd do anything to get him back, I don't feel the need to rush into things. He said we should definitely stay in touch because he misses talking to me. He also asked about how my son was doing and if his dad was still bothering me.I just need advice on what to do. While I want to pursue the possibility of keeping constant communication with him, I'm afraid maybe I'm reading too much into this and maybe he really just called to see if I was doing ok. I have no plans to call him, because I know if he wants to talk to me, he should be the one putting in the effort to remain in contact. Do you think I'm reading to much into this? Is it possible he wants to explore our relationship again? Should I contact him if I don't hear from him in the next couple of weeks? Please give me any advice, I could use it!
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reader, misztoria +, writes (14 April 2012):
misztoria is verified as being by the original poster of the question Harsh, but extremely helpful. I had a feeling I was getting excited over nothing, but I still love him and it's hard to let go. I'm not answering his calls or texts and I hope I can get over his behind soon because that phone call has me re-living the break up all over again.
Thanks guys, I knew I'd get an honest answer. Of course my friends encouraged me to seek him out further, but I knew better than to trust their advice. Gotta love this site and everyone for their honest answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): "Do you think I'm reading to much into this?" Yes very much so.
"Is it possible he wants to explore our relationship again?"
No, he contacted you as an after-thought under the assumption that in all these months you'd be over him and it would be possible to have light contact, that's not the case though OP because you're not over him.
"Should I contact him if I don't hear from him in the next couple of weeks?"
No, and if you do it should only be to tell him you're not ready for contact yet OP.
misztoria it's been nearly 7 months and you're still hoping to get back with him, you need to move on and that's not going to happen with him in your life. So break off contact until you're in a place emotionally where you could never see yourself wanting to get back with him. Don't torture yourself with a hope that doesn't exist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): He sounds like he was just updating you on his life and politely asking you about yours.You havent got over him yet so as your still emotionally vulnerable, I would not call him, IF he wants to re-start the relationship let him do ALL the chasing. But I think he just wanted to catch up and let you know his life is moving forwards as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): He only wants to stay in touch every once in awhile. He isn't trying to see you, isn't trying to date you, and isn't asking to be any part of your life except a phone call here and there. That's all he wants. No, don't contact him and I wouldn't take his calls either.
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