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writes:Hi. I'm so down atm.. I've always suspected my bf was seeing someone else when he moved away to work. Saw him texting a girl Xmas day last year,he denied it. Saw her add in a realationship after doing a few searched on fb, he later got rid of fb which he never had a profile before, have hardly seen him but speak most days or text... He even said about moving bk at the start of next year..this was Sunday just gone spoke to him like normal, anyway I know I shouldn't have but I went on her fb again last nite and to my surprise it went from a complicated relationship to being engaged... I was literally shaking I'm completely gutted I've been with him 5 yes.. Although I still have not much proof it's him I just know deep down its him and not sure really what to do....I want to warn her what he's really like but feel guilty doing that.. I just can't understand why he would say would come bk in Jan if he really wasn't going to I really don't get it.I know it's over for sure but still feel low.. I never tell my parents anything as don't really do that with them a few friends no but feel sad still, What should I do :(:( X
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2014): Did her fb page say she is in a relationship engaged to him? Is his picture there? If not she may be engaged to someone else. Your message here is a bit confusing so it is hard to say what is happening. If you have evidence he is involved with and now engaged to this woman you need to let him know you know about this and just break up with him. I wouldn't bother going there, why waste time and money finding out what you already know to be true. If you want to you can contact her to to let her know she is about to marry a two timer or maybe a 3,4,5,6 timer.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (18 December 2014):
I agree with the first answer. Bypass him and message her on fb. You will not get a straight answer out of him. If this is true in any way he is a cad and doesn't deserve to be protected, and the two of you deserve to know what he's been up to.
Caution: do not misplace your anger onto her. She has done nothing wrong. She has not betrayed you in any way. If this is true then she is a victim, too, so approach her with kindness, and be prepared that she may experience shock, betrayal, devastation, anger, and even denial. She may lash out at you. But you both deserve to know.
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reader, misztoria +, writes (18 December 2014):
 I'd come right out and ask him. That simple. I'd come up with something creative and ask him straight out if he was cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2014): Why don't you ask this girl what's going on. I would! Not in a spiteful way or to throw him under the bus, but just to get answers. Write her a email and tell her what you said on this site. 'I have a boyfriend (his name is so and so) who I suspect is having a relationship with another woman. I have confronted him and he denies it. I have done some digging of my own and all signs point to you. I could be wrong, I hope I am. But if I am not I just want to know the truth. I have no ill will toward you and I hope you can understand my reason for reaching out to you and perhaps can clarify my suspicions.'Tell her something like that. And see if she responds. If you don't hear back from her, I personally would travel to where he is and find out myself. In fact I have done this in the past. Hopped on a plane to visit my boyfriend to find out if he was cheating. And he WAS cheating and my suspicions were put to rest. On my travels back home I was even kind of happy. Because I was set free and no longer had to deal with one big fat deception that I never invited in my life. It was therapeutic. I now knew the truth, there was nothing he could say anymore to argue otherwise, you're paranoid, crazy, jealous. I wasn't. I got the closure I needed. And I moved on and never looked back. The less you know, the more he can manipulate you. So do whatever you have to do to get to the bottom of this. So that you can finally move forward with your life.
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