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writes:My gf is very pretty and curvy. she has an issue with her weight and therefore, she has a problem being naked in front of me. she dresses sexy and wears pushup bras to work, but around me its time to hide the girls. i tell how sexy she is all the time. She seems to hold back during sex sometimes. she will tell me to stop because she is about to be "over stimulated" and not sure if she could handle it. i take it as "get the f off me." she buys lingerie and never wears it. she came back from a girl and guy trip to vegas cleanly shaven for the first time. i found it odd bc she never did that before. her excuse when i asked her came two days later. she said she was trying lingerie. which she wore for me once. she went out of state for a business trip. she didnt talk to me at all. it was a trip for her company to mingle and get to know clients. i think she got to know one "too well." her company "fb" site gets shut down quickly when i walk in the room. Should i assume the worst? or am i just too suspicious? i asked her if i coulda went to vegas with her and her guy friends. she said i couldnt... she said it wasnt a place for couples. what do i do here? im sure i know. thx
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reader, Just Gill  +, writes (12 August 2012):
 I find this behaviour odd in a relationship. I could go on about her weight issues and say that this could be one of those factors. But honestly i do think your gf had other motive's by what you have mentioned. The suspicions are there for a reason as you know yourself she is acting oddly and doing things she would never do. The fb reaction from her does make you come to the conclusion she was trying to hide something from you. If your looking for guidence on how to find out the truth, best way is to ask her whats going on? Explaine why you have reasons to dought her through what you have told DearCupid. If you do this face to face you can see her reactions and this can tell you what you need to know aswell, you can tell if she's lying and such. Dont nag at her but if you explain again to her your reason's then there is no reason for her to be upset with you. It's an adult conversation about your relationship, if she feels anything for you then she will do it for you. If you dont speak to your gf about this then your suspicions will keep growing. You do have trust issues with your gf, which is understandable from what you have spoke about, but your in the relationship to and you need to feel wanted. Sounds to me your gf isn't appreciating what she has, you could always remind her of that though. You can always catch her attention again and get her to talk to you. I hope advise will help you out, or at least give you a few idea's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): I would say your gut is telling you something isn't right because this type of behavior doesn't happen in a true relationship!!!!! If it look like a duck, walk like a duck, quack like a duck then it must be a duck.I think your instinct is kicking in and warning you as to what's going on before she add more damage to your heart and soul.You're suspicious because of her little sneakiness and I would be too. I don't know but I would think she's having sex with the guy on the job the reason she's holding back sex with you.This boyfriend girlfriend thing seems to be the meeting place on a job for some people. I can tell you what happened on my job but I wont get into that because it's a long drawn out story.If your mind is always in wonder land then that means you're not comfortable or content in this relationship. Trip!!! Lingerie!!! Shaven!!! Didn't call or text while away on the trip!!!!! Shut down website when you walk into the room!!! If I were you I wouldn't want to know anything else she's doing and just walk away from this relationship while you got the best hand because this way you wont hurt as bad because you're cutting the ties, not that you want to hurt her but because you're protecting your feelings and plus she's already doing her thing the reason you're feeling the way you feel. Are you sure it was a company's trip? I don't believe anything she say after reading your post.Good Luck
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (12 August 2012):
 These actions can be a little suspicious but no one here can tell you what she is or is not doing.
The only thing you can do is ask her and trust her word, or not trust it.
Ask her and follow your gut feeling of whether or not she's lying.
Best of luck to you two!
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (12 August 2012):
I disagree. That is wierd. She should be comfortable around you enough to do those things. Did you ask her why she was trying to wear lingerie? Because that just doesnt sound right. I would talk with her, gently. Dont accuse her, but do ask to see her company face book page. You dont hide things when you have nothing to hide.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (12 August 2012):
 Girls will do a lot of things to help make themselves feel sexy. Not necessarily for anyone else either...but for themselves. That alone would not make me suspicious. Even closing out her FB account would not make me suspicious because anytime someone visits me, the first thing I do is close out my email or anything that I am on. Not because I'm hiding anything, but just because it's personal. I really don't want anyone even reading conversations with any of the my girlfriends...that is my business.
However, if she is doing other things that you are questioning, I would ask her about them upfront. Maybe you are just feeling a little insecure after not being able to go on the trip with her. I know a lot of companies do that, but it is rather strange that they would not be allowed to take a partner/spouse. That is the way some operate though.
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