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writes:I had a major blow out with my bf last night he said my mother was a b**** I thought that it was out of line my mother doesn't approve of our relationship but she has never involved herself in any fight or anything!His mother passed recently and I never said anything bad to her out of respect for my elders!!I could have because she was overbearing,always interfearing but I chose not to say anything I'm very hurt I live with lastnight I went to bed crying its his way or no way what we eat wheen we bath when we make out where we go what we watch on tv everything he says I must leave if I'm unhappy I have been with him through all his trying times does it mean that he is using me.He is older than I am what should I do everyone says he is using me.I'm really heavy hearted because I love him but my parents gave me life and he is leaning towards me having no contact with them because he dislikes my mom? Reply to this Question
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reader, MissTellAll  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 He does not have any right to say who you should and should not be able to talk to, this goes double for your parents.
Usually emotional abuse like this spirals down into even worse emotional abuse and sometimes even physical/sexual. If he wants to control who you talk to, who knows how far he'll go to control you in other aspects.
It seems he already has a bit of co trol over you. You say that he and you were fighting and your mother stepped in- but she's bitch? Parents only wamt what is best for their children (usually) and I think you should take her opinion of him into real consideration.
Leave this situation before it gets worse, controlling types hardly ever, almost never, get better.
I wish you all the best of luck.
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Get out NOW! Leave him! Go stay with your parents for awhile!
Trust me, this is a relationship you NEVER want to be in. It will hurt but if you don't leave him now then it will hurt ten times more staying with him!
Do you really want to choose him over your Mom? Your Mom loves you and this controlling/abusive boyfriend of yours doesn't. Go to your Mom.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 He cannot have the right to control your happiness...
my advice is get out of this relationship before he brings you down with his own sense of self destruction.
He has no right to call your mum names or stop you seeing her.
Leave before it gets worse in the future.
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