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anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now and it's been great he's so caring our sex life is amazing and we really seem to click.But this came crashing down at the weekend, I came back from a girls holiday and found him underneath his best friend in our bed! There was no question they were not having sex their clothes were all over. I've not said anything yet he doesn't even known I caught them, I'm so distraught, firstly he's having sex with someone else but also its another man! What do I do?
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reader, Mina_Bhamji +, writes (5 November 2015):
 Best thing is to get yourself checked. And confront him about it and see what his answer is. I wouldn't give strong advice such as dump him cause I don't know the depth of your relationship. But it definitely needs to be brought to the surface and spoke about. And maybe a bit of time away from each other so you both know what you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2015): Your boyfriend is a Liar. A cheater. Oh....AND gay.
Um..... I'm thinking you need to dump him. And swing by your Doctors office for an HIV test.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (4 November 2015):
 Gay,lesbian,bi,trans,straight- no matter he's a cheater. A cheater sexually and a cheater of allowing you to make decisions on what type of relationship you are willing or capable of having.
If thats what you saw then thats what you tell him, why should he get away with two secrets 1 that he's cheating on you and 2 that he's bi.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 November 2015):
 So your BF is unfaithful and at least... bisexual.
Whether he was screwing (pardon for being frank here) a man or a woman doesn't really alter the fact that he is NOt being faithful and is cheating on you.
So what do you do? Well, WHAT do you WANT to do?
Personally, I'd go see him bring a box, pack up any and everything you have at his place, then tell him you are done and good luck with his BF. After that? I'd block him and move on.
He isn't having sex with that guy because YOU aren't good enough- he is cheating because HE isn't good enough to stay faithful.
Let him go, why date someone you can't trust? And who MIGHT even put your health at risk. I hope you go for a STD/STI panel asap.
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