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36-40,
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writes:I have been sort of dating this guy from Germany. I bumped into a bunch of his friends when I was walking my dog. They were a bunch of law students having orientation. Well I hung out with him a lot more because we got along so well. But I had just found out he was 3 years younger than me (he is 21 and I am 24), so when he asked if he could kiss me I said no and well he was going back to germany soon (I am still moving on from a break-up). But we kept getting along very well a month and a half later we finally kissed. (nothing serious)We hung out some more and I thought perhaps we would have sex. Well when we finally started to get somewhere he started shaking! I felt terrible. At that moment he just looked like a shaking child to me. I pulled back from him and told him he was shaking but he didn't know what the word meant I had to show him with me hand and he said he would stop he was sorry and he didn't want me to leave.I felt guilty like he couldn't be ready for casual sex. He only slept with 2 people before. He was saying things like I fit into his life and that we got along so well he wanted me to give him a chance. But then he said I shouldn't worry that he would fall for me.I don't know about you but him shaking means something really deep doesnt it? I mean I don't want to have sex with a shaking man if I'm not in love!What do you guys think this was about?
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (3 October 2008):
 It could mean he was nervous, scared, shy, had a bad experience, was excited or a mix of a few of these things. It's hard to know without asking him what was going on.
If you are not in love with him, you might want to take into consideration that he said, "You shouldn't worry that he would fall for you." You may want to back off if you don't think there is a chance of you doing the same, so he doesn't get hurt. I mean if you are in it merely for the sex.
I hope this helps, good luck!
Michelle
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