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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. We both are so in love. He had a problem with snorting pills when we first got together. He's promised and sworn on my life that he has stopped for a year and a half. Recently his Mom has told me that he was doing them still. So I questioned him and he has finally admitted to it. I've asked him before and he's told me no. 2 days ago he said yes. It's everyday he's doing them. I absolutely hate that he does them. That is why I have dropped a lot of my friends. He said that he didn't want to tell me because he was afraid I would leave him. I don't know what to do. Should I stay or should I leave him?! I know I should make my own decision, but I am looking for advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (2 October 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Your b/f has a addiction a real problem that he needs help with.. Snorting just makes the effects kick in quicker, because its a more direct pathway...He probably used to take large numbers of prescribed drugs love and then found the feeling wore of so he then started to stort them, He must get his supply somewere love and pay alot of money for them unless he is prescribed these drugs..
http://www.drugfree.org/Intervention/WhereStart/
http://www.drugfree.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=ppc
It is so very difficult to break this habit he will rely on the drug just to make him feel normal hunny and will get awfull Withdrawal if he comes of them straight away so he needs Professional help to overcome all these problems..If you are prepared to help then show him this and ask him to get help love its so very hard living with an addict, I understand as my son has been through the same kind of thing but different addiction I do hope he can get help and you can cope with this hunny as it is so very hard TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE AND HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (2 October 2008):
 Good, I'm glad it helped. I know this can and will be hard on you, no matter your choice, but please keep in mind... this is a VERY VERY HARD habit to break. Make your choice wisely and know that you can only do so much for them. They have to do for themselves before you can help them.
Again good luck and I'm here if you need to vent or discuss this further.
Michelle
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. That was actually really helpful. Well from what I know he is snorting Lorcets, Roxicets and now I find out about Oxycontin 80mg.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (2 October 2008):
If in fact you know that snorting pills is ALL he is doing, give him a chance by telling him that you will stay with him if he gets help. Tell him you will stand by him and help him get through it, but that you can't go through your life this way. If you don't stand up to him and get him help now, it will be even harder later for the both of you and you'll end up leaving him after constant disappointment, hurt and ANGER. The first thing you and he must realize though is, HE has to want to stop and he has to want to get help to do so. You didn't say "what" he was snorting and that can make a huge difference in how easy or hard it will be for him to stop... with help.
You asked, "Should I stay or should I leave him?" so I get the feeling you know you may have too or have started to accept the fact that he may not change and you may be ready to take that step. Most women say, "what can I do to get him to stop?". I sure hope you are one of the strong ones that realize you have to take care of you along the way if you do in fact give him a chance to get off of the drugs.
I hope this will help you and I know there will be more great advice to follow mine.
Take care of you!
Michelle
Michelle
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