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writes:of course I didn't expect to have a party or anything like that. I live with my boyfriend, so I expected him to at least do something nice. I don't care about a gift, I just wanted him to be nice/thoughtful because he never is. So I got home from work and started to make dinner (yes I cooked him breakfast, lunch and dinner on my birthday). I was slightly annoyed about cooking dinner, but if he had helped me with it, I would've been okay with it, I guess. But no, he sat and played games on his computer and then continued to ignore me and chat with some friends online after dinner was done. With nothing left to do, I played Solitaire for the rest of the night until he got bored and picked out a movie. I guess I could've been a little more proactive and told him to stop and do something with me, but should I have had to do that? Anyway, am I overreacting, or should I be pissed?Also, after the movie when we were trying to go to sleep, he kept asking me is something was wrong, if he did something wrong. I told him no and that I was just tired. I know I should have chewed his ass, but I was so upset, and I just wanted the day to end. So is it that he is just really stupid or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dipsydoodlenoodle  +, writes (15 October 2008):
If he knew it was your birthday then yes I'd be upset, if he didn't know it was your birthday or that it was coming up then he can't be blamed really, he can't prepare for something he didnt know was happening can he.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): Did he even know it was your birthday? did you two even talk about doing something together? if you don't say anything, how is he suppose to know? Also if he is never nice/thoughtful, why would he change for your birthday?
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reader, unknownlady +, writes (2 October 2008):
 u should always tell your bf whats wrong otherwise nothing will ever get sorted. lads are stupid they need things explaining to them!
Just explain it to him and say it didnt have to envolve money just your attention or u cook my tea or someting. u never no if u explain it to him then he may do a belated birthday suprise for u x
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (2 October 2008):
 When he asked if something was wrong, you should have said YES! You can't expect some men to know what's wrong, they JUST don't know and don't want the mess of trying to figure it out. You have to tell them. Don't dwell on things when you tell them, just get it out and leave it at that.
The first thing you should have done was mentioned doing something. Like, "why don't we go out to eat for dinner, it's my birthday and I don't want to cook." Breakfast would have been the perfect time since it would have been the beginning of the day and he would have had time to possibly do something with/for you.
Some guys don't understand that birthdays are important to some women. They have to know these things up front. Drop hints to him of how you like to celebrate your birthday. Then if next time he doesn't do anything, mind you he may forget what day it is so remind him by saying are we going out for dinner for my birthday next week/tomorrow. THEN if he doesn't do anything, chew his ass and tell him exactly how you feel.
Don't let yourself build up as you have with anything. Talk about it, get it out or it will cause you more trouble later. You keep 4 or 5 things that bother you inside, then you blow up at the least little thing when you're completely stressed. Blowing up at something that has nothing to do with your state confuses the guy, because you shouldn't have gotten that out of sorts. See what I'm saying?
Communicate with him... he can't and won't try to read your mind.
Good luck sweetie,
Michelle
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (2 October 2008):
 If he was my bf I would have CHEWED HIS ASS BIG TIME!! Did you drop any hints about what you wanted for your birthday or how you wanted to spend it?
If you are looking for a guy who is more thoughtful and romantic, then I am afraid he AIN'T THE ONE!!!
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