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writes:Hi internet fans! I'd like to cut to the chase once and for all in relation to the subject of attraction. Ladies: which man are you most likely to be attracted to: guy no.1 who is good looking, has a great body, has personality and charm, but you don't work directly with him and talk infrequently. But you know that he fancies you since he told you in a letter; or guy no.2 who is not as good looking, does not have as good a body, does have personality and charm and you see and talk to him more often and therefore have a good rapport and this guy flirts with you but you don't know for sure whether he fancies you as such.Imagine guy no.1 is tall, has children but is not married and has a more junior ranking at work versus guy no.2. Imagine guy no.2 is shorter, has no children but is also not married.Ladies: imagine you are this married woman. Which of these two guys are you more likely to have an affair with - guy no.1 (shock and awe) or guy no.2 (softly softly catchy monkey?)?I appreciate that the woman should not be contemplating an affair of any kind of course, but since this is a theoretical question then there's no harm in speculating which guy is more likely to end up with the femme fatale in question.Thanks for your interest!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Hard to tell, they both have good qualities, and they both have bad qualities, the cars (no good), soccer (no football). Both are too short and the no hair thing, no. Maybe you could see each other.
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 This was pretty cool and I thought all along, "ok, which one is he?"
Then my next thought was...
He's interested in a married woman.
hmmmm... ok nothing on the part of why you added, "imagine you are a married woman". What was that twist for?
Very interesting Guy #1
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): Yes - guy no.1 likes books but acknowledges that he doesn't read nearly enough of them. Guy no.2 is not really into books and the fact that he isn't does not bother him. Guy no.1 has buckles on his shoes whereas guy no.2 prefers lace-ups. Guy no.1 has some hair whereas guy no.2 has lost his so has shaved the rest off. Guy no.1 drives an Audi whereas guy no.2 drives a Volkswagen. Both guys are good at soccer: guy no.1 is passionate and shows high energy levels on the soccer pitch. Guy no.2 is far more reserved on the soccer pitch but is slightly more skilful.
If anything I think this shows that all women are different and that women only like to be chased by someone they actually fancy. If they are chased by someone they don't then this freaks them out. If they are not chased at all then they are more likely to start chasing themselves - or they just think that the guy does not fancy her and doesn't bother chasing him if she's not interested.
My conclusion would be that both guys have a pretty good shot at being with the woman in this hypothetical situation. If she just wants sex then guy no.1 and guy no.2 have an equal chance. If she wants love then guy no.1 probably is ahead on points. If she just wants some companionship then guy no.2 takes the spoils.
If you have any further comments then that would be great since I love this kind of stuff! In the meantime huge thanks again for your useful contributions!
P.S. That’s right – I was guy no.1 ;o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2008): I'm with you Shandygirl.. One's too short cause I'm tall, both are too charming, I don't like flirts, shock and awe turns me off, and softly, softly monkey sounds irritating.. .. Is there any other options.. Do any of them like books?
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (2 October 2008):
Guy #1 because I wouldn't be suffocated, since we didn't talk every day and he does in fact fancy me and took the time to write it in a letter. (when do we see each other?...lol)
Guy #2 wouldn't be my choice because if he didn't fancy me, then why waste my time? I like someone that is fairly blunt, doesn't beat around the bush and isn't afraid to let their feelings be known. (If in fact he did fancy me, then I would say that I'd chose this man as well.
So if both fancied me it would come down to the best personality, the best communication and fun.
Hope that helps...
Michelle
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (2 October 2008):
 OF course it is HYPOTHETICAL question, I gave my answer as "a married woman" If I was NOT married, I would not go for the "HunK' because that type is usually narcissistic. And I am not attacted to men who are short either. SO... hypothetically I would say NEITHER anyhow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): ...that's right. If it makes the ladies feel better then imagine the woman is not married. Which guy would she most likely end up shagging then? No.1 or no.2?
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reader, -S  +, writes (1 October 2008):
Note: It seems this was a HYPOTHETICAL. Regardless of if you're married, it doesn't matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): No brainer question, most women would go home and have sex with their husbands... even hypothetically, married women are married cause they love the guy at home the best.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (1 October 2008):
I would not be interested in either. I am ... after all... MARRIED ... right? I do not beleive in affairs.
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