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36-40,
*ubblygirl
writes:Why do I feel guilty?This guy my friend is dating is charming and smart. They are in a long distance relationship though, but he sends her presents, texts her everyday and has planned to be with her already at christmas and spring break. However, he cheated on her by making out/having sex with another girl a week after she moved away.Why do I feel bad? He sounds like he really likes her by all that he does by trying, but he cheated!
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (3 October 2008):
 Maybe he's sending her gifts and being so wonderful to make himself feel better about cheating.
Do you know for sure? !110% sure? Without a doubt, that he cheated?
If so, you probably should tell her. Would you want her to keep it from you if she knew someone you were seeing was cheating on you?
This is the only thing, if you KNOW that it won't happen again, then tell the guy if he messes up again that you won't tolerate him hurting your friend and you will let her know.
Also keep this in mind, if your friend finds out he cheated by someone else and then finds out that you knew and you didn't tell her, what will she do? Is she going to be really angry with you? Will she be able to forgive you for that?
You have to look at different things here to make your decision.
Usually when a person cheats, it doesn't stop at one time.
Good luck sweetie,
Michelle
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): you did the right thing and sometimes the right thing is more difficult. she had a right to know what was going on. he may say he likes her and sends gifts, but that doesn't make up for the fact that he was with someone else. she can make that decision.
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