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writes:i am a girl. i hve a bf with whom i had sex.when i had sex for the first time i bleeded. later i didnt. but now we broke up and i am engaged with someone else and i dont want him to know that i am not a virgin.so,after how much gap of time or period of time will it take me to bleed again?????please help me out please.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Ditto to what everyone else said. Once the hymen is broken, its broken and you aren't going to bleed from that again. Have you told your fiance that you're a virgin? Or does he just think that you are? I mean, I guess if you want to get technical, if he doesn't ask, you don't have to say, but if he asks, you should tell him the truth, dear. He may figure it out the first time you have sex, he may not, but its not good to lie about it. Some women break the hymen without having sex, through exercise, tampons, ect, it all depends, but its really not a good idea to lie about something like this. If you really don't think he'll understand, perhaps he isn't the right person for you then. Most men understand that the woman they marry will have had relationships before him and they can handle it, as long as she wasn't sleeping with everyone. Please consider telling him the truth. If you lie, the results could be really disastorous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Sorry babes, but Michelle/Amandi is perfectly right. It is not good to start your married life with a lie. If he ever finds out he may hate you for lying, he may even ask for a divorce. Don't lie to him and don't trap him, it's not fair. Tell him exactly what happened, hopefully he will understand and it will bring you closer together. Please look at this link about how a guy suffered when he found out that his wife was lying about her virginity before marriage. I would hate this to happen to you....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-would-not-have-married-her-had-i.html
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 I have to agree with Michelle. She put it all very well. Sorry about that, but virginity does not come back no matter how long you wait. That is why you need to be so careful about giving it up in the first place!
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (16 October 2008):
 It won't happen again. Once your hymen is gone, it's gone for good sweetie. However; some women break the hymen by using tampons and they don't bleed at all their first time having intercourse.
I don't think it is a good idea to keep it a secret/tell a lie about being a virgin though. You don't think this will later come back to haunt you?
Also, if you are engaged, don't you want to be completely honest about everything so that you have an honest relationship? If you lie about being a virgin and he believes you, then later you may start wondering if he is telling you lies. This making your relationship destined for trouble and issues you don't want.
Anyway, my first paragraph is the answer to your specific question, I didn't mean to extend my answer the way I did, but I merely wanted to bring it to your attention.
I hope this helps!
Take care,
Michelle
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (16 October 2008):
If you are asking how long you have to wait until you will bleed again during intercourse the answer is forever. You will never bleed again because you already ripped the thing called your hymen which is what caused the bleed.I think you have bigger problem if you cant tell your fiance that you are not a virgin. I think if you cant be honest with him then you two shouldn't marry. Its not fair to him.
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