I'm feeling extremely insecure about my girlfriends stripper past and it's tearing apart our relationship. What can I do?
Q. Well, to start off me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year now, and all of a sudden her past is bothering me. When we started dating, she told me she was a stripper. No big deal I thought, and I shrugged it off and told her it didn't ...
A. 13 June 2012: Her past may bother you, but does her present? Is she good to you? Are you in love with her? She may have been a stripper in the past, but she's only yours now. Stripping was just a job to her, like any other job. I'm sure that she loves you to ... (read in full...)
Does my son need to see a doctor?
Q. my son 18 years old. when he was 15-16 he secretly used to wear his mom's panties and masturbate frequently with it. sometimes he wear her skirts as well. we warn him many times not to do so , but seems he hasn't stop yet. is this his mental problem ...
A. 1 June 2012: Believe it or not, this is a fairly common fetish for young men. He may or may not grow out of it. The main issue is his mental health, which I would say is just fine, unless he seems to have other abnormalities along with this. Some young men find ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me? Moms? Dads? Anyone?
Q. i am so sick of my mom! i am about turn 16 going to be a junior! but my mom doesnt seem to understand.. that i want to go out. she claims to be my bestfriend. and then when i tell her things she throws it in my face. like what the freak! she doesn'...
A. 31 May 2012: Honey, you have to think about this from more than your perspective. Even if you know that you will make good decisions, your mom is always going to worry about you. I think you logically should be able to eat dinner with your boyfriend's family, so ... (read in full...)
Is my friend sleeping with my dad?
Q. well last year my 2 friends stayed when my step mum and bro's went away and left me and my dad. my dad and her (my friend) have been flirting she will constantly have her boobs out in front (once in knickers and bra...looked like 4 attention) of him ...
A. 25 May 2012: It sounds like your father has a very overtly inappropriate relationship with your friend. Probably somewhat illegal even. Your friend is crossing a boundary, but you father is the one who is ultimately to blame, as he is the adult. I know that this ... (read in full...)
Concerned about girlfriends jealousy and what she considers porn?
Q. hi all, im concerned about my girls insecurity, recently iv noticed she gets snippy when i talk to my female friends, and she gets in a bit of a strop about it sometimes, she dosent seem to think she is pushing my female friends away by making t...
A. 24 May 2012: It's not ok for her to alienate your female friends, but mny women do feel insecure when other women are so important to their man. Just be open about what you're talking about (not like tracking, just like filling in), and maybe have all of you ... (read in full...)
Since I was 5 months pregnant husband checked out emotionally
Q. My husband and I got married 9 months ago, I was 4 months pregnant. I'm 20 and he is 28. When we first met, we had a passionate loving relationship. Once I started showing he didn't seem interested in sex anymore, we only had sex about 5 times since ...
A. 23 May 2012: Oh dear, this is not good for your emotional well being. I am very sorry that he is acting this way. It sounds like he has shut down from the inherent responsibility that comes with being a husband and father, even though he is of age. I suggest ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to break my hymen without pain?
Q. Hi in 17 and me and my boyfriend want to try having sex. I have read about all the diseases and things and no the risks and we will be careful, what I'm really worried about is my hymen. My older sister had sex and said it hurt really bad. I'm ...
A. 22 May 2012: It's interesting how we describe our hymens. During sex, the hymen is never actually "broken", but ether stretched or torn. This terminology is violent and makes it sound like sex will be very painful the first time, and there may be some discomfort ... (read in full...)
Husband watches porn then lies about it!
Q. What to do with husband lying about porn? Ok so..I'm married and have 2 kids. My husband has been lying to me about watching porn. Now the porn isn't really that big of a problem even though I don't care for it because it makes me feel insecure...
A. 14 May 2012: Lying is obviously a huge issue. I am so tired of reading all of these responses justifying why it is ok to lie to your partner, because you are ashamed, because they don't like it, whatever. It is incredibly destructive to a relationship to lie ... (read in full...)
After giving up a baby now I really want one!
Q. Hi I have been with my fiance for 4 years this summer I am 17 and we have lived together since august 2011 and we get on really well. I found out I was pregnant last september but he is still at university and we didn't have the money so his mum ...
A. 3 May 2012: It is very normal to pine for the baby that you have lost, especially if it would be due around this time. This is an incredibly difficult situation for any woman to be in, fraught with emotional distress and second thoughts. Though, dear, you are ... (read in full...)
I'm having a major hang up around my boyfriend's close friend who is a girl.
Q. I'm having a major hang up around my boyfriend's close friend who is a girl. My bf has many girls as friends and I don't have any issues with any one of them except this one. I think it's important to understand their past to answer this question. ...
A. 21 April 2012: I understand what you're going through. It is very tough to see the person who is supposed to be committed to you caring so much for another woman. You probably won't be able to ask him to leave her in the past without damaging your relationship. ... (read in full...)
What needs to change? I can't get over my negative feelings towards attractive people.
Q. I'm in my late-twenties and have always been considered unattractive... "cute" is the very best I can get. I never get hit on, or flirted with, and guys I date tell me they liked me DESPITE my looks, that my personality makes up for the fact that ...
A. 20 April 2012: I felt that way for a long time, and sometimes it's very difficult to dig out of. My problem has always been my weight. I've never been a naturally thin woman, not what media tells us is beautiful. I have stretchmarks almost everywhere, and I have ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling stuck and trapped. I'm pregnant and somewhat happy about it but worried about all the stress it will bring!
Q. Hey, I'm feeling totally torn and don't know what to do. Found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant to my bf of 2 years. We live together and have talked about having a child one day soon, but this is kinda unexpected and unplanned and I'm not sure ...
A. 17 April 2012: You cannot do everything for everyone, hun. You're one person with your own life and desires. There is rarely a "right time" to have a baby. There will always be changes and some strains on the mother and family. Though this is all miniscule ... (read in full...)
My husband cheating while I'm pregnant and wants to continue to cheat!
Q. Hi to all of u. Me(23years) and my husband(40years). I am pregnant 8 moths and 1 or 2 weeks.will be giving birth soon. I am going to tell what happened. My mom came to stay with me and my husband to help me when i give birth with baby kaitlyn ...
A. 13 April 2012: Oh, honey, you should definitely leave this man. I realize that it's difficult to leave the father of your child, but he is not creating a positive and happy relationship for you, and consequently not creating a positive home for your child. Despite ... (read in full...)
I don't know if we're ready for a child! Should I ask my wife to get an abortion?
Q. Hello. I am 25 years old and I'm graduating from college with my bachelor's degree in three weeks. I've been married for two years and my wife is 21 going on 22 in september. Here is my dilemma. My wife has one more semester to go after the end of ...
A. 10 April 2012: Most people don't feel ready for their first child. This is a totally normal reaction, but it is your wife's choice whether or not to keep the child. In my opinion, you are in a better life situation than many first time parents. You also planned on ... (read in full...)
Pregnant with my present boyfriend, problem is I still love my ex!
Q. I dont know how to say this. i have a problem now, i am now pregnant with my boyfriend for 8 months. and now, i dont love him anymore. i have an ex boyfriend which we lasted for 9 years, i dont know what to do because i still have the feelings for ...
A. 2 April 2012: I respect everyone's rights to their own bodies, including the right to abort a pregnancy under reasonable circumstances, but it sounds like you are beginning to use termination as birth control. If you want this baby, then keep it. You are not ... (read in full...)
Could the erection problems be because I'm actually gay?
Q. I am 22 years of age, relatively fit and healthy. From an early age I was interested in girls and have had several serious girlfriends with a really healthy sex life. I broke up with my last girlfriend three years ago and it took me a while to get ...
A. 28 March 2012: I don't think you're gay. Maybe bi, or just curious. It sounds like you have some sort of performance anxiety, even by yourself. You're stressing over your sexual orientation instead of just relaxing and enjoying being a sexual being. It doesn't ... (read in full...)
Am I too happy to keep a guy interested?
Q. I need advice... I feel I am TOO happy to develop strong relationships anymore, let alone keep anyone interested in me. This may sound silly, but other than this disturbing new trend in my life where I seem to fail to connect with ANYONE - wh...
A. 27 March 2012: You sound like perfect relationship material! You are stable, know who you are, know what you want, and don't like drama. It doesn't sound like you're boring, it sounds like the people around you are maybe not on the same level in their lives, that ... (read in full...)
I am in a LDR- how do I stop feeling jealous?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and we have been in a long distance relationship for exactly a month now. The first two weeks going really good, he would even stay friday nights in his home to Skype with me! I thought ''wow, this ...
A. 27 March 2012: Jealousy is a very normal feeling, but it is how you handle it that matters. You can't stop your guy from going out and having fun, but if you don't trust him then that's another problem entirely. He should at least make an effort to respect your ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 27 March 2012: There are plenty of girls that are still virgins at your age, they are just usually more reserved and maybe don't flaunt their virginity like some girls flaunt their sex-appeal. Being a virgin isn't necessarily the most important thing in the world ... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: Games never get us anywhere, but she is definitely mistreating you. It seems like she is going through something like a midlife crisis. She's trying to regain her beauty and youth by getting attention from external means. This is not necessarily a ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being the alternative when men get turned down by prettier women
Q. Where do I begin? I'm a 23 year old, brunette with brown eyes. Where I live, this is common, average and uninteresting. People usually compliment blondes or girls who have green or blue (or even really light brown eyes). Or lucky girls who have ...
A. 27 March 2012: Trust me, honey, I know how You feel! I would consider myself pretty, but very average. No huge boobs, not very thin. Just mostly average. But you know what? It really doesn't matter. You sound like a very attractive young woman. Maybe your features ... (read in full...)
What do you think about death?
Q. I had many death lately in my family. Very close family members died, from different causes. So it is very difficult time for me, and I have hard time dealing with it. That got me thinking of death a lot generally. And its funny , but I can't find ...
A. 23 March 2012: Well, dear, it's true that no one knows what will happen. What we do know is that it is a natural part of life. Everyone has a time that they must go. It is hard to accept that you will eventually have to leave this world, but try to think of it as ... (read in full...)
What is the average length of time that a man lasts during sex?
Q. This might sound like a silly question and I know that every one is different, but what is the average length of time that a man lasts during sex?? I've been with this guy for about 5 months now and we just recently started having sex. He lasts ab...
A. 23 March 2012: It's really not you, honey. My fiance sometimes lasts over an hour. This probably just means that your man has more control over when he reaches climax. My guy tries to hold off coming for a long time just to prolong the fun.
If you want to get h... (read in full...)
It creeps me out that my boyfriend masturbates in bed, next to me!
Q. I'm not prude to someone's need to self please, I'm not even jealous or against it... but my boyfriend has been masterbating while I'm sleeping. I wouldn't even know about it if I hadn't caught him at least a half a dozen times. (and by caught I ...
A. 23 March 2012: I would let him know that you have caught him doing this. Ask him why he shows less desire for you and has turned to pornography when you are literally right beside him! If he absolutely needs his porn, why doesn't he take it into another room ... (read in full...)
I have to decide between letting him go or just accept the situation as it is
Q. I’m at a crossroads and I have no idea what to do. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and two months ago we moved in together. I met him at a time in my life when I was quite lonely and desperate to have someone. Before him I never had a ...
A. 22 March 2012: Basically this comes down to love or money. Sounds like you love the guy, but your love is conditional based on his income. I'm not saying this is wrong, as many women seem to think this way. We want a man who can provide for us. You have to decide ... (read in full...)
I'm torn! Is he the man I'm meant to be with or am I just wasting my time?
Q. I met an incredible guy like two months ago...Since we met we had a nice time together..He told me he doesnt live here in my city....he was here for bussines..he works with his family and they travel a lot...They can stay 1 or 2 months en each ...
A. 22 March 2012: Unfortunately life does not always allow for plans to follow through. It worries me that he promised you that in a year he would open his own business to be near you, because that sounds like a lofty promise. It's wonderful that he makes you hap... (read in full...)
My best guy friend was having constant fights with his girlfriend because of me, so I told him we cant be friends anymore. Did I do the right thing?
Q. I just broke all ties with my guy best friend because I was getting hurt with whatever that was happening and I couldn't take the pain. We've been best friends for two and a half years and he was literally my everything since i was going through ...
A. 22 March 2012: This was very mature of you. I have been in the 'jealous girlfriend' role in this very same situation. I hated that they were so close because I knew there were still feeling between them, even if they were just lingering. I really like this girl as ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden my boyfriend is sick of me and thinks I'm too predictable!
Q. I have been with my bf for almost 10 months, and we have been pretty good except for the rare arguments that we work out. He has a huge sense of humor, and he makes jokes about anything, everything, and he knows that I always say he doesnt know when ...
A. 22 March 2012: Sweetie, if this guy loves you then he wouldn't ever say anything like that. When you love someone, you see their best features and admire them, compliment them. Not tear them down! It sounds like this guy maybe likes you, but is trying to get you ... (read in full...)
Father of my baby will not give up pot and I don't want him around my baby!
Q. Hi, im a 20yr expectant mother in college. I have a problem. The baby's father doesn't do anything to help me. He's addicted to smoking marijuana and drinking cold medicines mixed with soda. Yes, you can get addicted to marijuana and HE NEEDS HELP. ...
A. 22 March 2012: Sit him down and make it perfectly clear that he cannot have a part in his child's life unless he quits smoking and being generally stupid. It's easy to say 'leave him', but as the father he does have some legal rights. Though if he has drug ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for an attached man to pay for lapdances?
Q. Hi- I'm interested in guys' opinion on this one. Do ou think it's normal for a guy who has a gf to still go to strip clubs on the weekend with his guy friends and to pay for lap dances? I could understand the bachelor party thing and for single guys ...
A. 20 March 2012: I am not a man, but my boyfriend and I have talked about this before. He thinks that it would cheating, or at least close to it. Think about what it is really. Your man is paying for a naked woman to rub against him to bring him sexual ... (read in full...)
Dumping a guy over pornography use?
Q. Has anyone here ever dumped anyone over pornography use? How bad was it? I want to find a man who doesn't use it so I can feel special for once....
A. 20 March 2012: I, personally, don't really like that my boyfriend watches porn, but it's certainly not a deal-breaker. We talked about both of our feelings, and reached compromise. Sometimes we watch certain things together, sometimes he's solo. I would like for ... (read in full...)
We want to have sex but what if my parents find out?
Q. soo c: I have a boyfriend and he is a couple months younger than me. we both have talked about sex and we really want to have it but I'm worry that my parents will find out and I don't know if I'm old enough either /: Help3 ...
A. 16 March 2012: I totally understand the sexual urges and frustrations of being in your age group. However, it is important to realize that most of these urges are coming from this huge influx of hormones that your body is producing, not from logic, and probably ... (read in full...)
I eat as a stress reliever, how do I stop?
Q. For over 10 years i thought i suffered from panic attacks. I had all the symtoms. I was stressed. I'd get hot and panicy. I'd have serious chest pain that would not leave me for hours. I couldn't always breath and calm myself down. I was told it was ...
A. 14 March 2012: You are going to have to develop a new relationship with food. Not as comfort, but as fuel to nourish your body and help you function normally. Food is essential and should be enjoyed, but not abused. As with any drug, abuse of the use of food can ... (read in full...)
I'm having a difficult time with my husband's cross-dressing and she-male porn fascination
Q. Hello everyone ive been having trouble accepting my boyfriends addiction to ahemale porn and crossdressing fetishes. Its caused him to lie to me hide things from me. I know ive not made it very easy to.express to me but all ive asked if him is to ...
A. 7 March 2012: This situation isn't normal by definition, but it is more common than you would think. Many people enjoy blending the two sexes in their personality. Sometimes this is the only way they can find balance. It is easier for women, because if we fe... (read in full...)
Is it ever OK to cheat on your spouse?
Q. My wife has basically lost interest in sex. We've talked about it a lot, and says she just doesn't think about it very much any more, and that she's at a stage in her life where she's just not interested. She still gets in the mood, but it's very ...
A. 6 March 2012: I understand your frustration. It's hard to feel rejected by your spouse time and time again, but NO that does not make it ok to cheat! You even said yourself that she is going through a 'stage', meaning it will eventually be over. If she has guilt ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if you guys/girls think I could become pregnant.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a pickle. We had sex and he finished inside of me. BUT some factors will affect this. This was on 3/1/12. Today is 3/3/12. 1. I am on birth control, the pill Ortho-Tricyclen. But on 2/29/12 I couldnt take my pill. ...
A. 3 March 2012: It is possible that you could be pregnant, but it seems highly unlikely especially if you are having a normal period. Go ahead and take the Plan B, as it won't hurt anything, but don't freak out. If you are still worried, wait a couple of weeks and ... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable because I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend!
Q. I have always had higher sex drive than my bf and that has always been bothering me. I would be afraid that he finds me overly sexually active and feels disgusted by me. I spoke to him about this and he said he is fine with it, he isnt disgusted by ...
A. 2 March 2012: This sounds like an issue that your bf has, not you. Usually when men have little interest in sex it is because they lack confidence or have some other mental inhibition. Become more emotionally intimate may help this problem.
You should never be... (read in full...)
I don't want to be that jealous girl but I still feel so jealous and insecure. How do I get over this feeling?
Q. Hello I need some help or advice to get over my jealousy. I am with a guy, we have been together 2/3 months officially. We were seeing each other earlier in the year but it didn't work out as he had just come out of serious relationship but...
A. 29 February 2012: I completely understand feeling jealous of your boyfriend's female friends. My fiance's friends are mostly women for some reason, and sometimes it drives me crazy! But then you just have to step back and realize that he is with YOU, not them! If he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend impregnated another woman... what do I do?
Q. good day, please advise on my problem. I have a boyfriend of 3 years that i love so much and we have a baby 18 months baby boy, we had our ups and downs in our relationship but we always talk about them and solve them. I just recently found ou...
A. 29 February 2012: It sounds like you're a very sweet, open young woman. Unfortunately these sort of behaviors are difficult to change in men. If they aren't faithful, there is little you can do to make him stop. There may have also been other instances of him ... (read in full...)
New relationship - Am I being silly or what?
Q. Good afternoon all, I will give you a little background regarding my situation. I'm in my 40s and met a wonderful man a couple of years younger back in November while walking my dog. We actually live on the same street and we have been dating ...
A. 22 February 2012: I don't think you're being silly or unreasonable. It seems as though all of this stress may be taking a toll on him, and maybe your relationship has just temporarily been put on the back burner. I wouldn't take it as him being uninterested.
I wou... (read in full...)
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