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writes:Hi I have been with my fiance for 4 years this summer I am 17 and we have lived together since august 2011 and we get on really well. I found out I was pregnant last september but he is still at university and we didn't have the money so his mum said the best thing to do would be to have an abortion and we both agreed, ever since then I have regreted that moment I still wonder what our baby would have been and it makes me feel really sad our baby would have been due around now. Ever since then I have been really broody for a baby and its gotten a lot worse recently but I know its not a good time my fiances finishes school in febuary and will find a job but I haven't gone to college yet I don't really want to go to college I would rather have a baby now and then go to college later as I am going to be taking a turkish course in college and I am not ready yet as I haven't learnt enough turkish.My fiance has also admited that if I was to become pregnant again then he would want us to keep it and we have future plans to get married and have 3 children together I really love him and really want to have our first child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): You will regret that moment for the rest of your life....But there will a time when you are really ready for a baby. You are very young and have so much ahead of you. Don't let NOT having a baby make you sad or depressed. Work towards your goals, and keep a positive outlook about school. A baby is a very big job, but it is also very rewarding. Maybe speak with a doctor about you feeling sad about the due date time and the date of "that moment". (((((hugs))))
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 It is very normal to pine for the baby that you have lost, especially if it would be due around this time. This is an incredibly difficult situation for any woman to be in, fraught with emotional distress and second thoughts. Though, dear, you are very young. Give it awhile, think about it, get some of your life in order first. Maybe take a few classes, try to get a job, go on adventures with your fiance! Then consider having a baby.
Children are a joyous piece of life, but they also come with a lot of responsibility. You must ensure, for your sake and the sake of your child, that you are willing and ready to commit to such a venture. Wait until your emotions have settled.
Much love and Best wishes
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