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writes:my son 18 years old. when he was 15-16 he secretly used to wear his mom's panties and masturbate frequently with it. sometimes he wear her skirts as well. we warn him many times not to do so , but seems he hasn't stop yet. is this his mental problem ? can this be stopped? do we ned to take him to doctor? please advise Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): This type of thing is quite common, more so for men than women. When he was becoming sexually aware, he must have found some panties and incorporated them into his masturbation. This led to items of clothing becoming imprinted and a part of his sexuality. It led to him fetish for womens wear. It is normal for this to happen to some men and it could have been anything around at the time, even a hairbrush. It is just one of those things. Many men dont understand why they have a fetish such as his and can feel very ashamed and guilty. It can even make them feel depressed because they feel they are not normal. But they are, so please dont make him feel he has a problem and needs help because he is fine. He just needs to be more private about things so others are not discovering what he likes to do while masturbating. He is entitled to have a private side to his life without being made to feel he is ill when he is not. Masturbation is also normal by the way.As it is his private sex life and he is not harming anyone, you should allow him his privacy just explain that your wifes clothing is definitely off limits. His fetish is common and it has nothing to do with your wife, so be assured he is not ill and has no desire towards his mother, he just finds ladies wear sexually stimulating, just as many other men do. He is OK.
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 Believe it or not, this is a fairly common fetish for young men. He may or may not grow out of it. The main issue is his mental health, which I would say is just fine, unless he seems to have other abnormalities along with this. Some young men find wearing women's clothing to be sensual and arousing, usually because of an experience in childhood that is instilled in their sexual nature now, and should not be of concern. Basically, just let your son express himself, unless it impedes on the rest of his life.
Much love and Best wishes
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I can certainly understand your worry but I doubt that seeing a doctor would resolve anything, except give clues as to why your son seems to be so sexually fixated on his own mother.This may not be the case of course. It could be that he just gets turned on by feminine garments, nothing too unusual there, your wife's clothing being easily accessible to him. You somehow need to find a way to see if it's any feminine garments that do that for him, or his mother's in particular.Try to ensure that his mothers clothing is secured from his access and see if he introduces other clothing into the home, for his own purpose. If that's the case, I wouldn't worry - we all have our own 'thing' that turns us on.But if he actively seeks his own mother's garments, then he needs psychiatric help, in my opinion.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): Take your boy to a docter. This is not irregular, but it is extremely inappropriate and will lead to problems later in life if your son continues this particular behaviour. Really get through to him how disgusting what he is doing is. Scar him with whatever information you can, to teach him not to do this very again.
And good luck.
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