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*onelygirl02
writes:I dont know how to say this. i have a problem now, i am now pregnant with my boyfriend for 8 months. and now, i dont love him anymore. i have an ex boyfriend which we lasted for 9 years, i dont know what to do because i still have the feelings for him. and i dont want my present boyfriend anymore! i dont know if my 9 year boyfriend will accept me, for leaving him and going back to him being pregnant with another man. i got pregnant before last 5 months, and i terminate it because itruly love him. and i dont wanna lose him. i dont know why i did this again, i was depressed for aborting the baby, and i want a replacement, i should be happy now for the replacement. but i am not happy with the man, what should i do? please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2012): You're going to be a parent now, so your first priority should be the well being of your child.
I think it's extremely unlikely that your ex will take you back considering that you were the one who left him, and now you're now having another man's child.
it's time to emotionally let go of your ex, that opportunity has passed so it's time to move on.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (3 April 2012):
 I don't think this site can help you. Professional help is needed here. Speak to your doctor about this and get some assistance. Please.
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 I respect everyone's rights to their own bodies, including the right to abort a pregnancy under reasonable circumstances, but it sounds like you are beginning to use termination as birth control. If you want this baby, then keep it. You are not obligated to remain with the father by any means, but it does pose the possibility that your ex will not want to be with you and take on the responsibility of parenthood for a child that is not his. You already know how abortion works and have suffered the aftereffects.
You may still have feelings for your ex, but now you have a bigger decision to make. If you get back together with your ex, do you think it will work out this time? Is it worth giving up your unborn child? If you decide to have your baby and become a mother, then that should be your main focus, all other things on the back-burner. You seem like you want to be a mother, so consider what you want for your own life, not necessarily what your boyfriends want.
If you abort, or even sometime after the baby is born if you keep it, please try some reliable form of birth control. It will help you keep out of a lot of future messes!
Much love and Best wishes
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