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writes:I just broke all ties with my guy best friend because I was getting hurt with whatever that was happening and I couldn't take the pain. We've been best friends for two and a half years and he was literally my everything since i was going through a break up. Later on, you know that phase where everyone thinks that you can go ahead, he used to like me as a more than a friend but he never told me. And after a year I started liking him as more than a friend. But I was confused. I realized it wasn't going to work out. Just after 3 days, with my help he started dating another girl and they've been dating since a year and I'm happy for them. I don't have feelings for him anymore and even he knows that, the problem is we're in different schools and we don't meet a lot, we just talk as much as we can. His girlfriend hates me and they often fight a lot because of me. We both love each other as best friends but it's causing both of us a lot of pain. Lately, he's been ignoring me and not being the same. He isn't being there for me like before. And I told him that I wouldn't want them to break up because of me and i backed off. I told him that he has been fighting with his girlfriend so that would stop and eventually I wouldn't feel the pain too. So I told him we can't be best friends or even friends anymore. I know this is right. What do you think? Did I get fed up too fast or should I have given it some time? (mostly nothing wil change in my life, we just won't be called best friends anymore since we had already become so distant. Sorry it's too long but I really need some help. Thanks :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 If he is now involved with some other girl, then you did the decent thing by backing out.
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 This was very mature of you. I have been in the 'jealous girlfriend' role in this very same situation. I hated that they were so close because I knew there were still feeling between them, even if they were just lingering. I really like this girl as a person, but I felt that their closeness was crossing the line in our relationship.
You are a very smart and perceptive person. Unfortunately, this girl has to be his number one now, not you. It's just the rules of the game.
Much love and Best wishes
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (22 March 2012):
OK, the reality of the situation is that at one time or another you had romantic feelings for him and he had romantic feelings for you. If his girlfriend has a shred of intelligence she has either perceived this or he has told her this.
Thinking that she should be fine with the two of you being so emotionally close as you are is just a nice theory. It is perfectly natural that she be jealous, and should not be blamed in the least for how she feels. Out of respect for her he really should cut his ties with you, but out of respect for you he should at least have been man enough to explain to you why he has been distant.
You did the right thing. No doubt about it.
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