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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:HelloI need some help or advice to get over my jealousy. I am with a guy, we have been together 2/3 months officially. We were seeing each other earlier in the year but it didn't work out as he had just come out of serious relationship but then we bumped in to eachother months later and we seemed to hit it off again, he wined me and dined me and dated me properly and after a while asked to be exclusive with me. Within the first month of our relationship he still went out a lot with the lads and a couple of his girl mates and even once they all stayed at her house. I never used to bug or moan at him but one day it got too much and I told him if he wanted to carry on acting single and staying out at girls houses to be single and I didn't want a relationship like that. Since then he completely changed and said he realised how much I meant to him. The past 2 months he wants to spend a lot of time with me, doesn't want to go out as much (still every now and again which is healthy) has bought me flowers, paid to take me away for a weekend, is lovely to me, introduced me over a dinnner to these 'girl mate' to reassure me, I am just so insecure still and worry that he is going to cheat on me and I don't know why! I don't want to be that jealous girl but I still feel so jealous and insecure. I also think if he doesn't want to be intimate all the time he doesn't fancy me! Any ideas how to get over this feeling as I don't want it to ruin our relationship. Please help!
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reader, LovelyLemon  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 I completely understand feeling jealous of your boyfriend's female friends. My fiance's friends are mostly women for some reason, and sometimes it drives me crazy! But then you just have to step back and realize that he is with YOU, not them! If he wanted to be with them, I'm sure he would have gotten with them by now.
As for staying the night and such, I think that should be left in single man territory. If he is respecting your wishes and devoting the majority of his free time to you and the relationship, I would say that there is nothing to worry about.
The relationship is young yet, and trust will build over time. He already seems quite willing to be committed to you, so just relax and enjoy.
Much love and Best wishes
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