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writes:Ok, I have had a crush on this girl for about a year, and noticed she was flirting with me. In fact she hired me in to the facility I worked in, she worked In human resources. Anyway I quit the job and kept coming back just to visit and every time I would visit she would stop to sat hello and flirt a little bit. One day she told me she was pregnant, and I couldn't think but how lucky her fiancée was to have her, but she had a miscarriage. About three months later I saw her at a tornado zone because I am a firefighter, and she went out of her way to say hello to me, still at this point I wanted to be with her.Then one day last week, as I got out of bed she crossed my mind and I thought of her all day long. After searching for her on facebook, we talked and exchanged numbers. I found out that she and her fiancée had just broken up a month ago and she had moved out, and things aren't looking up for them. It made my day to say the least, so I decided I should make my move!She is 25 and I am 19, which we both really don't care. I am hoping to take her out for lunch tomorrow, and hope to pursue this thing as a relationship. I mean, I respect her. I will be honest and say I can't just look at this girl as a "piece of ass". I actually want a relationship with her. I am not afraid of rejection and never had a problem with women, but she scares me, I mean I want to impress her. She told me she prefers to be called baby but I will have to earn it. I hope to take her to dinner and a movie sometime this week, is holding hands too much this early? My main question is, should I pursue this thing? Does it look positive? Everyone seems to think so, just need your all's advice!
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (23 August 2011):
 I think that you should go for it, but if you do, then you shouldn't expect a relationship for a while. She's only been single for a month and that's probly not enough time for her to get over the fact that she could've been married. She seems to have an interest in you, but still, don't expect a relationship so soon. Let her decide when she's ready to give her heart to you, and if you don't think you'll be able to wait for her to be with you, however long she may take, then it's better not to start things with her. Give yourself a time frame of how long you think you could possibly wait for her if she needs time. Be patient, but don't spend too much time on this.But if you think this may work, then go ahead and give her a chance.
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (22 August 2011):
 Hiyaaa,Why not?I don't see why not.The only problem with pursuing this relationship thing is that it might be a bit too soon. The girl you like just broke up with her fiancee a month ago and a lot happened in their relatipnship which she might have not got over.Honestly if you really like her and wanna be with her tell her straight up don't impress her (that is one of the WORSE thing to do) but just be yourself. Dress like you, smell like you though a little Hugo Boss goes a long way :P and let your personality shine through.Be confident and say it straight up that you like her and wanna start a relationship and if she says yes then you're on top of the world and CONGRATS!If... (IF) she says she isn't ready then take this opportunity to be a really good friend and get close to her support and and maybe when she realises how good you are then things will go on from there!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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