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writes:I am crazy in love with my boyfriend and he really is a great person. But I am really feeling insecure at the moment... I'm over weight and live quite a ways away and haven't gotten to see him much. But thing is he used to be very popular back in his senior year (which was a few years ago) and for some reason (and even though he was a virgin) the fact so many girls liked him and kissed HIM first makes me feel so insecure... like I'm not good enough I guess. How did someone like me get someone like HIM? Even when we play online games together girls melt over his sexy voice, which is what drew me to him to begin with lol... yes we met online. I find myself constantly stalking his ex's and crushes on facebook (just looking them up not actually doing anything) even though he hasn't talked to any of them since his 12th grade year... how can I get over this? I KNOW this isn't good for a LDR!! :( Please help... before I get so insecure I just call a quits!
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reader, BlondeBabe x  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Why don't you try and look at this from a slightly different perspective.
Now, you say you’re insecure because he was popular and you don't feel good enough? Personally believe this isn't true.
Why?
He chose you over these others girls as in his eyes the obviously can't hold a candle to you. You must have qualities that you make you stand out from anyone else. You shouldn't feel the need to check up on him, you just have to trust him and if he ever does anything to hurt you then he isn't good enough for you. He is lucky to have you and I'm sure that he knows that.
If it helps imagine you are in your own little fairy tale and you now have your prince charming, don't let your insecurities get in the way.
Love can make you insecure but hey, that pretty much go for every girl on this plant.
You are beautiful, just believe in yourself.
BB x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): If he's with you, he obviously sees good qualities in you and has chosen you above the others. Maybe you could do some work on your self-esteem. Ask others what your good points are, read some self-help books/websites.
Try not to look up what he's doing/who he's talking to on Facebook. This will just fuel your insecurity and make you concentrate on your fears rather than what you have going for you.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Hiyaaaa,
Firstly love can make someone do crazy things. It's the power of lurveeee. You shouldn't feel so insecure and focus on loving your boyfriend.
Stop stalking his exes and all that and just focus on making him happy do the little things that make him happy such as baking coookies and sending them over or whatever. Just keep yourself occupied so you don't have to think about his exes.
Secondly you gotta bear in mind that what you're doing can destroy relationships so ease it off slowly. I'm pretty sure you're beautiful coz everybody is beautiful in their own way so stop trying to compare yourself to his exes.
Sometimes you just gotta remind yourself that no one is perfect and that your lucky to be in love. Don't ruin it by trying to be someone else or get really caught up and addicted to stalking his exes.
You know what you should watch this film "She's Out of My League" fantastic film about this woman who is perfect and outta this guy league and he soons become really insecure coz the woman he is dating is too perfect. It maybe a really good film for you and it hilarious!
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
x :D
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