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*ichele21
writes:I recently wrote about being miserable in my relationship and wanting to be with another woman... well my girlfriend just had a death in the family and her brother just got 130yrs in prison so.... I feel like she really needs me in her life right now... sometimes our relationship is wonderful becuase she knows what I need when I need it and I don't have to explain anything to her, it's crazy and I'm so dependent on that at certain times.... we haven't had no sex in a week which is very strange but frankly it's getting a little boring, it's not something that I want any more, I mean I love her very much, I'm just not in love with her like I used to be when we first got together 3 years ago... now I'm just afraid to leave because she is having all these other problems and she doesn't need to hear any more bad news right now so I feel that I need to be here for her and what not... Meanwhile the other female I want to be with, I talked to her last night and told her how unhappy I was and what I wanted and she told me I needed to get out of the relationship and do what makes me happy and I told her I wanted to be with her. She said she would like that but she is not over her last girlfriend and she still stays the night over her house but their not going to get back together they just talk..... so I don't wanna be alone but then again I don't wanna leave my woman for this other chick and she doesn't wanna be with me... so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place here... I really like the other feedback I got from my last question I asked so I hope that I will get some more good feedback about this question... thanks for all your help and support everyone...
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reader, michele21 +, writes (7 November 2008):
michele21 is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah he robbed two different people at gun point she knew he was going to get a lot of time but now she thinks he is going to kill himself while he is in jail...so she is freking out its her favorite brother
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): you do have feelings for her but you dont have those feelings my advice tell her how you feel but wate until she is over the death
p.s. what did her brother do to get locked up for 130 years
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reader, michele21 +, writes (5 November 2008):
michele21 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok im not trying to be selfish i know thats how it sounds becuase i want everthing to work out in my favor but i really do love her and want whats best for her in the long run seriously i just know we are not each others soul mates we won't be togethter forever so i wanna stop leading her on and move on with my life as well because im unhappy and she can tell it by my actions just can't pinpoint why i mean we talk about everthing i just don't know what to do but i don't think im being selfish
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Shit happens. It's true, but staying with someone because it just happened to happen to them is wrong. Just as staying with someone whilst you wait for a "Better offer" is too.
Leave her and let her get on with her life, you are just eating into time she could spend looking for that special someone who IS going to want to be with her, regardless of personal issues.
In short, you're just being a selfish baby, get over it and move on!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 November 2008):
Wow, so she's horribly traumatised and you are finding it "boring" because she doesn't want sex? And you'd dump her but you haven't yet had a better offer?
To be honest I think she is better off with out you.
Yes it will be a kick while she is down but you are not exactly going to be supportive to her. All you want her for it for her to look after you.
Good Luck!! xx
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